(Closed) How/When did you tell your boss?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
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  • Post # 2
    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Well, a lot of that depends on how close you are to your boss.

    I told my boss the day after I got my BFP, because there are products that we use that can’t be used when you’re pregnant/breastfeeding, (I’m a massage therapist).  Because we are a small clinic, we’re all fairly close, so everyone knew we’d been struggling to conceive.  I told my boss and several coworkers by asking to book a massage with one of my coworkers.  My boss approved it, my coworker started to enter it into the system, and I said, “And turn that sucker pink for me, will ya?” Pink appointments signify a prenatal massage, so the second I said that, they knew, and everybody freaked out.  

    Obviously telling in a cutesy way like this wouldn’t work for circumstances where you work in a larger business or aren’t as close to your boss.

    Post # 3
    633 posts
    Busy bee

    I think I was 13 or 14 weeks when I told my boss. Since my OB has me coming in every month, I’d needed a little time off of work for appointments. I just said, “you might have noticed that I’ve needed more time off lately, and I wanted to let you know why. [My husband] and I are expecting a baby in January.” Then I went on to say that so far things are looking good, it should only minimally affect my ability to work (might need to take a 5-10 minute break every so often, no heavy lifting, no ladders), and I would let him know well in advance of any foreseen time off requests.

    Post # 4
    7656 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I told m boss right away (5 weeks pregnant), but she’s a woman, so I knew she’d understand. Plus I work in a clinic. I just told her, “I wanted to let you know I’m pregnant.” and before I could even get to the part of taking time off for appointments or if I didn’t feel good, she jumped out of her chair and hugged me, lol.

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 1 month ago by  megz06.
    Post # 5
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I told my boss earlier, around 8-9 weeks when I was having more appointments and feeling quite sick. I pulled her to a conference room first thing in the morning and said, “I have some exciting news. DH and I are expecting!” She gave me a huge hug and said congratulations! We then discussed keeping it quiet for another month or so. It was great. I explained that I wanted her to be in the loop with what was going on because I had been feeling so sick, etc.

    Post # 6
    998 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I told my supervisor/office manager within the first tri, they are both women who I am pretty close to so it was pretty easy to share the news with them. I didn’t tell my boss who’s a male until I was 17w, I wanted to make sure I got the all clear from our NT scan. I sent him an email asking to please let me know when he was available to speak in private. He came down a few hours later, we went into the conference room and had a nice chat. He was surprised and excited. We went over some details and left off on a good note. 

    ETA as far as how I worded it, I opened up with this … So I bet you’re wondering why I asked to speak with you privately, well incase you couldn’t already tell I’m expecting.  He looked down at my belly and smiled, at this point I was starting to show.  The conversation went on naturally … back and forth … no ackward pauses or silence.  I hope it goes just as smooth for you!

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 1 month ago by  xdaydreams05x.
    Post # 7
    11760 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    bestbuddies:  I waited until 18 weeks when it was starting toget obvious. I was super nervous about what to say, so I just went in and said just wanted to let you know I’m pregnant and due in March lol. He thought I was quitting so he was relieved! Then we briefly discussed my tentative plan for maternity leave and returning to work as after he had time to digest and plan more we reconnected to worj out details.

    Post # 8
    512 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Miss Apricot:  omg I love that! How awesome you have such a great workplace, boss and coworkers.


    Post # 9
    512 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    bestbuddies:  I haven’t decided yet! With my DD, I told my boss whom I was quite close with at about 10 weeks ( boss was single – widowed mom). Now with #2, I just got this awesome 15 month temp posting to cover a colleague’s mat leave, same employer. During my interview,  my new boss actually said “please tell me your not going to get pregnant for the next 1.5 years.”

    Yes I know its not allowed…its crazy! Then surprise, a month later before I even start the job, bam surprise pregnancy while NTNP. I’m 8 weeks in and even as a smart, educated, experienced woman, I’m bleeping terrified. I hate letting people down.

    So yeah, nervous and confused myself so I unfortunately have no advice :-/ Sorry.

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    Post # 11
    198 posts
    Blushing bee

    bestbuddies:  I just told my supervisor about a week ago. I just told her I had some good news to share and that I was pregnant and due in February of next year. I also said something about how that was why I had been requesting some time off for doctor’s appointments and that I would let her know the gender when I knew. Then today I sent an e-mail to all the staff here that are full-timers about the news and also announcing the gender. I’ve been working here for over 5 years, so I felt comfortable doing an e-mail after letting my supervisor know and we don’t have many times where everyone is all together to make one announcement, so I guess from here the news will spread. Good luck with telling your boss, it is nervewracking but then you feel relieved after 🙂

    Post # 12
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

    i told my sup at 16 weeks. she was pretty oblivious to everything, so i probably could’ve waited longer but i felt that was a good time. i told her i was letting her know as i needed to figure out what to do about maternity leave. she was nice enough about it lol.

    Post # 13
    473 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    i told my director at 15 weeks. It was very nice. She told me congratulations and asked whether i wanted to come back after leave. I said ‘yes’. She asked how long i wanted off and i told her a year. It went so much better than i thought it would.

    Post # 14
    446 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I was planning on waiting until 12 weeks, but at 10 weeks I had some bleeding while at work. I called my doctor who said to come in ASAP so I told a coworker I wasn’t feeling well and kind of ran out of there.  The next day my boss asked me what was wrong, out of genuine concern it seemed and not because I was in trouble.  I just told her “well I’m pregnant” and this is what happened.  She smiled and said “looks like we’ll be having babies around the same time.”  She was pregnant with her third (her second was less than a year at the time so I had just seen her go through a pregnancy) and she is due five days after me.  I’m 38 weeks now and everyone is betting on who will go first.

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