(Closed) How/when to tell work I'm pregnant when I know I'm quitting before baby

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Always, always, always look out for yourself. If your work needed to let you go, they’d do it in a heartbeat. Turn in your two week notice when you’re ready. That is enough of a courtesy. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

The end of June is only about 3 months away…can you deal with feeling guilty about appointments and time off until you give your notice? It’s not like you will have to deal with negotiating maternity leave or anything like that in the meantime.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Rafissch:  I don’t know why you are combiing the two issues in your head.

You can tell them you are pregnant without any mention of your future plans to resign. If they ask about your maternity leave plans, you can just reply that no decision has yet been finalized.

It’s very nice of you to want to be round to train your replacement, but that is really out of your hands. Whether or not the employer hires a replacement while you are still around is completely up to them.

I wouldnt give notice until you are comfortable being unemployed, whether that is the minimum two weeks, or something more to give them time to hire a replacement.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Don’t worry about training someone.  It’s nice of you to want to do that, and if they want you to, then great.  Personally I’d give 2 weeks and HOPE they walked me out the door!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would give my notice when I was ready to leave.  Whether or not they keep you around to train your replacement is their problem, not yours.  There’s no need to tell them you plan on leaving in June now for whatever reason you may have.  Not to be mean, but you’re replaceable, everyone pretty much is… they look out for their own ass, it’s up to you to look out for your own best interest. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I agree with julies1949! I would mention your pregnancy without mentioning your future plans to resign. In June, when you do give your 2 weeks notice, if they decide to keep you around to train the new employee, great! If not, then that is out of your hands. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

You are really overthinking this. Give your two weeks. At the end of the day, the company will be just fine whether you train someone or not. Really, they will.

If you’re feeling that guilty, than start compling a training log of sorts detailing everything you want the next applicant to know. And give to your supervisor (after you resign). 

Congrats on your new baby. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I understand that you’re trying to make things easier for your company/sucessor, but I would avoid any mention of moving until you give your notice. I don’t see why they’d want your FMLA paperwork done so far in advance- if I read your post correctly, you’d be five months pregnant when you resign? I don’t think mine was done until a month or two before going on leave. I’m not sure the exact dates when my OB filled out the necessary paperwork, but I remember having a big belly- I think it was at least month seven or eight.

If they want to start it so early, oh well, that’s their issue, not yours.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Depends on what state you’re in. If you’re in California like I am then I’d let them walk me out asap and collect unemployment until I qualified for disability. 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

So wait until it’s obvious in a month or two?  I don’t understand the need to announce it straight away at 12 weeks.  And I really dont think HR will be starting paper work for a leave over 4 months outs.  Or tell your boss when it’s obvious and don’t bother telling HR yet, it’s not like bosses go reporting this stuff to HR.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

pinkshoes:  where I work they do, but they’re family friendly here. 4 month paid leave.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

You don’t have to tell anyone you’re pregnant. It’ll be obvious and you’re not required to mention it. Don’t set up a formal meeting or anything, just tell them casually if you want to! Or tell a coworker and word will spread. But these are two totally separate issues.

I would not give any sort of notice until 2 weeks prior to leaving. It doesn’t matter if you’re pregnant.

Congrats on the pregnancy, and good luck! 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

karen12:  But do they need to start the paper work over 4 months out from the start of your leave…?

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