HR Bees: Pregnant and Accepting a New Job

posted 4 months ago in Career
Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

tulipdazey :  that’s fantastic! I can say as parents it makes all the difference in the world to have understanding and flexible employers. 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

Congrats on your pregnancy!

 

A coworker of mine had the same thing happen to her.  She wound up telling them after she got the offer and negotiated certain  things with regard to her leave.

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper

tulipdazey :  I hope it works out! One thing that you might be able to negotiate is that if you don’t return to work you have to pay back the benefits they paid for you while on leave. I know lots of places that have that policy (which I personally think sucks, but that’s not the point here) and it might make them feel more confident that you’ll return. HOWEVER – make sure that if you did back out that you could actually afford to do that. The employee I referenced earlier was a very driven career woman and her husband was a student. She still decided to become a Stay-At-Home Mom and they lived off family support/loans until he was done with school. It happens. We all think we know if we want to be a working mom or a Stay-At-Home Mom but a lot can change once that vision becomes reality. 

Also I personally would be concerned about an employer who felt “burned” by women not returning from maternity leave. If it’s been a major problem for them then that makes me think they aren’t very supportive of working parents. I knew I wouldn’t be emotionally ready to return to work after 12 weeks and I told my employer that when I was pregnant. Because they aren’t idiots they granted me additional time off (unpaid) because, as one guy put it, “I can lose you for a couple months or I can lose you forever when you say fuck that place I’ll just quit and get a new job when I’m good and ready. I’d rather lose you for an extra couple months than forever”. 

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