Post # 1
My sister is my maid of honor we’ll call her S
Okay so S has yet to buy a dress for the wedding and also she has taken on of paying for my entire reception. I suggested to her that if she had to much on her plate she could skip buying the dress, but I also told her that I’d prefer she sit out cause if she didn’t have a dress in my wedding colors I didn’t want it to clash cause it wouldnt match my wedding colors, And it would look strange in my wedding photos I’m paying a lot of money for and us brides have our vision you know… I didnt mean to upset her but it did.
I still feel strong about my decision and prefer she wear the same color. She tells me all the time she doesn’t have money to buy a dress and here it is 1mnth and a 1/2 to the wedding and she wouldt have time to even order a dress. I suggested this cause she already has a huge bill with the reception. She thought I was being a B**** cause she has already paid for my wedding dress and now the reception. I just didnt want her to be stressed out about Money, soit was a suggestion and I told her to sit as a guest cause if she wore her own dress she wouldn’t be in my wedding colors and she would kind of stick out like a sore thumb and it would look weird in my pictures…. now she is upset calling me names and a bridzilla cause i want everyone to wear the same color for my wedding photos im paying for and thats just what i prefer…
Am i in the wrong for even suggesting this??
or am I just a bride who is asking a simple request??
I already am prepared for honest answers even if they might hurt feelings… Dont hold back. Please give me your honest opinion.
Post # 3
I’m confused… your sister is paying for your entire reception and your wedding dress yet you asked her to not be part of your pictures? I’m not really clear on your priorities.. No offense but if my sister were to do something so incredibly generous, I’d let her light herself on fire in my pictures!
Post # 4
If she’s paying for the reception and for your dress, then you should pay for her dress.
Post # 5
I’m almost afraid to comment, because I feel like I must be reading this wrong.
Just trying to clarify. She’s paid for your dress and your entire reception, but doesn’t have money for a dress? Also, why is she paying for your reception and your dress?
If the answers are what I think they are, then I think that 1- you should have figured this out when she had time to order one, and maybe there is still time to find something and 2- yeah, it’s kind of rude to tell someone that paid that much that they can’t be part of your wedding.
Post # 6
Your sister has been very generous by paying for your wedding gown and reception. Why don’t you offer to pay for her dress? That way you can have her as your Maid/Matron of Honor in your wedding color.
Post # 7
Your sister paid for your dress and is paying for the reception- and you think it is ok to tell her she needs to sit as a guest if she doesn’t have a dress in the right color. I hope she takes the money for your reception and buys a great dress in the correct color.
Post # 8
no i suggested her to sit out and be a guest cause if she cant afford a bridesmaid dress i didnt want the pictures to clash if she was in a different colr than my bridesmiad
I was only a sggestion to begain with and we never had a chance to discuss possibilites cause shes upset which wasnt my intentions
she says shes having “a hard time buying her dress” but shes taking on the reception and payed for my dress i just didnt want her to have added stress
Post # 9
You are absolutely out of line asking her to ‘sit down’ because of a shade difference after everything she’s done. Buy her dress.
If my sister did anything like that for me, I’d let her wear a peacock headress if that’s what she wanted.
Post # 10
oh my.. In my opinion, since she has done so much for you, if you are really that insistent on her wearing your wedding colors then you should buy her dress for her. Or else, deal with her being in the wedding with colors that aren’t your wedding colors.
Not to sound mean… I just feel like she is your sister, your Maid/Matron of Honor, has paid for your dress AND reception…. and you won’t let her in the pictures because she doesn’t have enough money left to buy the dress you want her to. not exactly kind of you.
I think you should buy her dress for her, or let her wear whatever she wants. and then thank her profusely for all of her generosity
Post # 11
I will chime in and say why not buy her dress for her as a gesture of gratitude for her generosity? That way it will be in the color YOU want, and not stress her out any more.
Even if you don’t, I think you’re being a little rigid in asking her to only be a guest over a dress. She has been beyond nice with helping your wedding vision come to pass.
Post # 12
i would buy her her dress but im broke hence the reson why my inlaws offered my hotel and S already bought my weding Dress
Post # 13
@SherylAA: ‘It was only a suggestion’
It was a horrible, ungrateful, rude suggestion.
Post # 14
@Wrkn925: <– What she said.
You realize that it’s pretty rude after all she’s done for you, right? Regardless of what shade dress or whatever.
Post # 15
IAnn sorry but I think you are wrong here. She has done so much for you and your wedding. It doesn’t matter if her dress doesn’t match.
Post # 16
Sorry your feeling this way and I am also sorry for saying what i want to say. I dont want to hurt your feelings but i really think you are a little out of line here. She is your sister, she is paying for everything, including your dress and reception. Thats a HUGE gesture from her and if my sister did that for me I’d think i would just about be happy if she turned up nude for all i care! I really wouldnt be hard on what she is wearing. She is doing so much for you and for your wedding day, It’s no wonder she has no money left for a dress for herself. She is acting so selflessly and you are now not allowing her to be in your wedding photos. If that was my sister she would be right up front and center. Step outside the crazy wedding world and see things for how they are. When you do, come back to earth and apologise to her. 🙂