Post # 1
So it’s only two months since the wedding, and whilst eating a greasy breakfast burrito, hubby’s ring slips off and falls to the floor. It’s tungsten and fell from only three feet off the ground, yet somehow managed to crack and chip. He showed me and at first I wasn’t too upset. I figured we’d just get it fixed, but unfortunately, you can’t repair that particular metal and we didnt have money to buy a new ring in order to have the old as a keepsake, so we had to send it back to have it replaced. I’m so sad the actual ring we were married with is gone forever now. I still can’t believe I didn’t put up more of a fight. I keep thinking in my head of our vow “As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.”
I guess I was just hoping there might be something someone could say to make me feel better, or in general just to warn people that apparently that’s a pretty common occurance with tungsten, as we were completely unaware of that when we bought it.
Post # 3
Ouch. I’m sorry you didn’t know that about Tungsten. One of the benefits to a metal with some plasticity is the avoidance of breakage in a fall.
Post # 4
Raise your hand if you didn’t know that about Tungsten! Seriously, we did so much research before buying that ring (like knowing we could never have it resized, it would never scratch etc) but somehow that information never came to our attention.
Post # 5
Aw that sucks. Just remind yourself it’s just a ring…the sentiment is still there! Try not to let it get to you and get too hung up on it–you’ll forget about it once he has a new ring on =]
Post # 6
I’m sorry to hear that happened! 🙁 Do you plan on getting another tungsten or changing the metal?
My boyfriend took his old tungsten wedding ring to a radio chemistry lab to have his friend help him destroy it. They placed it in pliers, applied a little pressure, and the tungsten shattered into dozens of pieces, while the white gold band bent.
Post # 7
I didn’t know that either, and hubby’s got a tungsten band!! I’d be upset if we had to have it replaced, but at least we have a lifetime warranty on that bad boy. I’m eventually going to be replacing my band with what I really want once we can afford it, but will keep my current band to wear when I can’t wear my ering
Post # 8
Wedding rings are like the pope or the dalai lama or like UGA…. the position is never ending even if the physical thing might change over time.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I’m sorry that happened. 🙁 I’d be pretty upset too! I get weirdly hung up about that kind of stuff too.
I also didn’t know that about tungsten. We haven’t looked at any tungsten wedding bands, but now I know not to!
Post # 10
I’m sorry that happened. At least it’s just a ring and you will replace it with one that looks the same. It’s the symbolism of the ring that matters, not the ring itself!
Post # 11
Aww I’m sorry! Well you guys should definitely hold onto it since it has a very special meaning. Just because he’s not wearing it, doesn’t mean it loses its meaning. That sounds really strange about the ring though. My hubby has a tungsten ring and he manages an auto shop and he’s pretty rough with it and it still looks like the day we got it. I’m running on 4 hours of very interrupted sleep so I’m trying to think of the metal that’s like tungsten only it’s not supposed to shatter…. titanium? I dunno, brain won’t work this early. But maybe go for a different metal.
Post # 12
my hubby doesn’t have his original ring either…I just try not to think about it!
I told him the ring was way too big, but he insisted on keeping the one they had in the store…after the wedding he decided it was too big, but it can’t be resized, so he had to swap. 😛
Post # 13
I’m so sorry that happened, and if I was in your shoes it would bother me, too. Could you maybe do something to the next one to make it more special like engraving it or getting it blessed by whoever married you?
Post # 14
Well, I called the jeweler to try to get it back. Mr. Panda texted me today saying he could wait until we could afford something else versus getting a new one of the same metal and just having this happen all over again in a year. The jury is still out on whether we will get it back or not, but fingers crossed! Thanks for all the support bees!
Post # 15
Ahhhh, poor Panda. Only a few months into our marriage, my husband dropped his wedding ring down the garbage disposal… and then turned it on. 🙁 It ended up very chipped and bent into a weird oval shape, so we had to send it back to jeweler’s for a replacement. We didn’t get the original back; they just sent us a new one since it was still under warranty.
I know it sucks to lose the original ring, but just remember that it’s the sentiment that counts, not the actual physical object. An object is just the physical reminder of those words; the ring can be broken, lost, destroyed, etc… but it’s the words and their meaning that really count! I hope you do get it back just for a keepsake, but if you don’t, I hope it will be ok. Remember, you can always replace a ring, but you never get to replace the memory of saying those words on your wedding day!
Post # 16
UGh. I almost lost my wedding band down the bathroom drain at my parent’s house on Turkey Day. I feel for you.