Post # 17
Like the other ladies, I agree that driving lessons may be a good idea. Perhaps they will sharpen his skills and his confidence. And honestly when driving, sometimes stuff happens! It’s not always bad drivers that get into accidents.
Also @Scottielass has a good point. Maybe he has some vision problems. Those vision tests that you take when you get your license are pretty much a joke! Maybe he needs some corrective lenses.
Post # 18
1. Get on your own insurance ASAP. And don’t lie to the insurance company about this accident – that is a huge no-no and could get you in major trouble.
2. Cut your husband some slack. He may not be the best driver out there but he really doesn’t sound that horrible either. Maybe a driving school would be a good thing but I do think you are overreacting to this accident just a little bit because that is truely what it was ….. an ACCIDENT.
Post # 19
Thanks ladies for all your input! I don’t plan on lying to the insurance company. I’m just very new to all of this and not sure at all what to do.
I’ve calmed down ALOT since this morning and really just want to talk about this with him on his lunch break. I understand the ladies on here saying cut him some slack but if your not a mother then you have NO idea what its like to know your child has been in an accident and it didn’t even have to happen. Theres nothing more scary then the thought of your child hurt or worse.
Its not as simple as saying it was just an “accident”. I have also been in accidents and have been rear ended. I’ve never done anything that was my fault though. I know sometimes they just happen and that is very understandable but he’s just plain and simple not a good driver. There are so many things he is good at that I’m not and driving is not his thing. When I mentioned the blind spot thing in the original post I really meant that he didn’t believe that there is a such thing as a blind spot. When he switches lanes on the highway or anywhere, he doesnt believe that you have to physically turn your head to look next to you. He believes that the mirrors see all. That has caused many of our “close calls” and left alot of drivers showing us some “love” out on the road for cutting them off.
I’m really just waiting for the “big one”. The big accident that hurts him or anyone else. I think about it every time he leaves the house. I never say anything about it to him but if you knew him or have driven in the car with him you would understand. It feels like just a matter of time to me for some reason……
Post # 20
Oh my god! He doesn’t believe he needs to turn his head before switching lanes on the highway?! That is so dangerous. It’s one thing if he just gets into little fender benders here and there and is a timid driver but to ignore someone telling you that you need to physically turn your head and check your blind spot? No excuses for that.
He needs some professional driving lessons, stat! Maybe he’d be more likely to listen if it was coming from a licensed instructor rather than friends/family.
Post # 21
I’m just glad your little one was not hurt in the accident! That’s so scary!
Post # 22
Honestly, I wouldn’t let him drive my car around. Get him something old and dirt cheap that if he runs into something, it doesn’t hurt it! (My parents still have the car all of us learned to drive on and it’s taken a beating!)
One question….Was he never taught the correct way to drive by anyone? I’m not trying to be mean when I ask, just asking. I had taken the course in HS and my dad taught me very well.
I won’t harp on him for having an accident. I too have had one myself. Mine was pretty serious and I didn’t drive a car for WEEKS after that.
Another note: My husband is a very FAST driver. He’s had several close calls when he was younger and still does. Heck I even have close calls myself (just had one yesterday, wasn’t my fault). If I’m going to be following him, I let him lead that way I can drive at my slow pace.
Other than just driving yourself (as you say you do) that is about the only best way to avoid his accident prone antikes.
Post # 23
2PeasinaPod You stated that the insurance follows the car rather than the driver. Not with my insurance. I have the same company my father does and when I got married and got my own I added my husband onto it as well. With it just being me and my husband on our policy, my family CANNOT drive our cars. The same goes for my father. At one time I was on his policy and could drive any one of our 4 cars. Now….no, I can’t. I’m not covered any longer on my father’s policy. It depends on the company MissFlipFlops has. Some are different.
Just making a statment. Don’t think I’m pointing you out of the crowd. Just my opioin.
Post # 24
Edina LOL! I cracked up laughing at the first line of your post! ROFL! I know you probably didn’t mean for it to be funny, but I had to laugh. I ALWAYS turn my head. I will never forget what my mom told me one day when I was just using my mirror to back out of a parking space. “Mirrors don’t get it all. You need to crank you little young head around and look for yourself.” From that day until now, that little saying has always crossed my mind weather I’m changing lanes or backing out.
Post # 25
I am sorta in the same boat..
my hubby knows there’s a blindspot. but he REFUSED to turn his head, instead he sit up more and look at the mirror (supposedly see more in the mirror that way). it freaks me out, how hard it is to turn your head!? when he cut to left lane, we are always so close to the car originally in front of us that I felt the right front corner of our car is literally few inches away from it.
I have spinal chill everytime it happens (and I never have that when I am a passenger, besides my 74 yrs old dad)
i am sorta in a way, waiting for the ‘big thing’ to happen too so he would drive a little less reckless… 🙁 dunno what to do.. oh and btw, we are driving my parent’s car too..
so i understand your frustration esp u have a child in the car..
Post # 26
My fiance is a driving school instructor, and I’ve heard many stories…some good, some bad. I also suggest that he may want to get some on the road lessons. For one, it’s different to hear it from an individual you aren’t personally invested in. And lessons are much more than “here’s how you turn” or “stop at the stop sign”, it’s also about teaching people to recognize situations before they become problems. Maybe it’s picking out the aggressive driver and deciding to stay out of their path, or keeping a safe following distance, or recognizing when it’s safe to switch lanes. Going is just as important as stopping. Fiance stresses that if you don’t go at the appropriate time, other people are going to take advantage of it and assume you’re purposefully letting them in.