(Closed) hubby is anti- Christmas tree :(

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) did he have a bad experience or something like that as a child?  M doesn’t like it either and only has one for the kids and i and when he sees the way our faces light up because of it he’s okay…

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Aww, could you get one of the cute little table top ones that are 2 to 3 feet?  Granted, I’ve always had fake trees and I don’t know if “real” ones come in this size the way the fake ones do, but that should give you the smell and be a little bit of a compromise.  πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Aww, I’m sorry he’s fighting getting a tree πŸ™  Maybe I’m a bad wife, but I just might go out to get one myself just so I could get my way! j/k

Really, though, this sounds like it’s soemthing that really means a lot to you, so it sounds like you need to have a serious talk with him to see if you can help him understand why having one is so important to you and see if that helps your cause.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception

Mr. Pudding is like you:  he loves a fresh Christmas tree.  My family has always had a fake, so I try to make a case for plastic every year.  I always end up giving in, and even though I enjoy the smell, I hate the clean up!  Maybe a little plastic tree like smokipenelope suggested would help you feel more of the holiday spirit?

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Get one anyway!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He can suck it up πŸ˜› Seriously, you have right to the tree that will make you happy πŸ™‚ And he needs to respect it…or deal with it, whichever!

I’m atheist and I STILL have to have the decorated tree, lol

But Fiance and I don’t keep a tree here because we live 20 minutes from my parent’s house and spend most of the holiday there- we do a big family tree there (13 foot full tree with all antique ornaments we’ve been collecting for years and years- HUGE tradition in my family! πŸ™‚ There’s just no point in us having one, because it would spend lonely nights here all by itself, and that’s no way for a Christmas tree to live ^_^

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My FH is not anti christmas but very bahumbug….. He dislikes christmas it gets him down i dunno why i think it is because he is usually alone and all the stuff that he sees at work this time of year..

 

Honestly i have found that bargaining and the use of special little treats gets me anything i want LOL now now you know we all do this… I told my man but baby wouldnt i look so good under that tree with a bow on LOL….. I ended up getting to put up 3 christmas trees he bought me a cute 3ft pink one we saw and i liked and suprised me with it. He even helped me put it up and haha i got it up already yup even before thanksgiving!

 

Seriously use the bargaining tools you got… try to make christmas time and putting up the tree a fun time for him and maybe he wont see it as such a bad thing

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hey JoesWifey! It seems a bit bizarre that your hubby is so opposed to you guys having a tree. If he didn’t have one when he was a kid, its all good and fine, but if that were me I would probably just have developed an “I don’t care” attitude about having a tree versus actively stopping my partner from having one – same with the other decorations! At least you were able to get some decorations though. Those little touches just make the holiday season.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

That would make me sad too!! Although I have to say, if you’ve got the money yourself, just go and get a tree!!! We don’t always have to wait for permission to do something that will make us happy, this is the reason for keeping some finances separate in the first place πŸ™‚ If your hubby doesn’t have happy childhood memories of Xmas, it makes sense that he is anxious about it. But this is your time to start your own traditions as a family, and make new memories. So, tree it up! You might want to keep it small this year, then expand next year, and so on, just so he has time to get used to it. You might have to compromise somewhere (no wreath on the front door! No flashing lights! No angels!) but I don’t think it has to be on the tree itself if it’s so important to you.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You can check craigslist for a used tree! I found a 7.5″ artificial one for like $20! I’m anti-real tree, but my allergies really hate it, and I think Darling Husband almost cried when I told him we would never…ever..ever have a real tree, haha

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Great! It sounds like you will show him how much fun the tree and decorations can be. My husband wouldn’t put in the effort to do it himself, but if I decorate he appreciates it. I hope yours does too!

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