(Closed) Hubby wants to visit New Zealand, I don't

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I visit New Zealand?
    Yes, visit New Zealand : (148 votes)
    90 %
    No, visit Australia : (12 votes)
    7 %
    Go somewhere else (suggestions please!) : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 16
    4505 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Open your mind and go. I would love to have a chance to go to New Zealand. You just might surprise yourself and enjoy it.

    Post # 17
    2470 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m not sure where you’re located, but the first thought I had was…  assuming you’re in the USA, that’s a really expensive plane ticket for a location you’re not interested in visiting. 

    Would it be an option for him to go hiking in NZ on his own or maybe even with a friend, then you two could travel somewhere together that you both want to go?  Although, depending on how much vacation time he gets yearly, that could also impact his ability to vacation with you.

    I think if my SO and I had a similar sitiation, we’d try to compromise with something like:

    – go to NZ, SO goes hiking part of the time while I find something else that interests me. Maybe even a spa.

    – I get to pick the next trip.  

    Post # 18
    5884 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    northbynorthwest :  You can go hiking but not go camping.  Go to NZ and rent a cute cabin in an outdoorsy location.  You can spend the days hiking and doing other cool adventures and then come home each night to you comfortable cabin, running water, etc.

    I think you are psyching yourself out for no reason!

    Post # 19
    46 posts
    • Wedding: January 2018

    I live in NZ, and have done for the majority of my life. I’ve never been hiking or tramping, but camping here is nice. It all depends on the type of equipment you have, and what time of year. There is definitely more to NZ than hiking and outdoor activities lol. And New Zealand doesn’t have snakes and gigantic spiders like Aus does.

    I’d recommend a visit. At least that way you can say you have been, will give your hubby the chance to experience something he really wants, and afterwards if you really hate it that much, you can say you would never come back.

    Post # 21
    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’d compromise with hikes but staying a hotel instead of a campground. 

    Post # 23
    1074 posts
    Bumble bee

    northbynorthwest :  My H regularly visits New Zealand for work. I only get to see the pictures and I’m ridiculous jealous. I’ve always wanted to go. So of course I say, GO! 😁 It’s beautiful. 

    Post # 25
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I’m an Aussie who lives in NZ. I would say go to both. I’m assuming you’re from the US so it wouldn’t cost that much more in flights to fly into Aus then back to the US via NZ. There is a ridiculous amount of beautiful things to do in both countries and you really shouldn’t worry about doing hair and makeup while camping… most campsites here have great kitchens and bathroom facilities anyway.

    Post # 26
    1125 posts
    Bumble bee

    If it’s culture and history you like, you’ll love New Zealand. Research the Maori people and their culture.


    Honestly, I can’t understand why you wouldn’t want to go to New Zealand simply because of some hiking and camping…at least try it once before you say you don’t like it! That’s like a child saying they don’t like broccoli when they’ve never eaten it before…just plain silly.

    Post # 28
    1936 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    It IS possible to be high maintenance and enjoy the outdoors. Trust me, I’m that type. You just have to find the balance. 

    For example, I can slum it and sleep in a tent and piss outside no problem. But I HATE bugs. HATE them. Especially the big ones. (I can handle my measly little Canadian bugs.) I can handle rodents. Not bugs. NZ woud be out for me because of the damn bugs.

    I don’t even need to shower every day. I can Turkish bath my way through a solid 72 hours. Ont he 73rd hour I need to have a shower. Shave. Blow out my hair. Straighten it. Then I’m good to do for another 72.

    Anyway, try to find out the specifics as to why anything related to the outdoors doesn’t appeal to you and I bet you can find a compromise. You just need to figure out what it is that you are will to settle for and what you’re not.

    To the above PP: I’ve never heard of glamping! Thank you so much for this, lol.


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