(Closed) Hubby wants to visit New Zealand, I don't

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I visit New Zealand?
    Yes, visit New Zealand : (148 votes)
    90 %
    No, visit Australia : (12 votes)
    7 %
    Go somewhere else (suggestions please!) : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 61
    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Oh NZ isn’t exactly humid (though Australia very much is) only mostly up North near Auckland. There are sand flies in summer on the coast but bug spray helps (I’ve only used it once when deep South) and not really any other pesky bugs to bother you while camping. 

    Post # 62
    38 posts
    • Wedding: October 2017

    You can see the majority of NZ’s beautiful scenery just by driving around in a car or getting out and doing a leisurely short <1hr walk. Most of the trails are family friendly and well maintained with flushing toilets in the area so I think you’ll be just fine! Plenty of cruises, wineries and hot springs to visit along the way. Plenty of clear sunny days with cool breezes too – mostly dry heat so even if you do get sweaty, you’ll find that you dry off pretty quickly without feeling grotty after. You won’t find swarms of flies and mosquitoes here like you do in Australia either. Feb/March are usually the hottest months. I would agree that fall would be a good time to visit.

    Post # 63
    910 posts
    Busy bee

    NZ is seriously beautiful. Completely stunning. To go hiking in Oz you actually have to go somewhere quite remote, unless you’re just talking about a day trip. It’s a different kettle of fish to NZ. I actually think if you dislike heat and sweat etc then hiking in Australia is not your deal. Go to NZ. I’ve been camping and hiking in Oz (I’m Australian) and there are bugs. So many bugs. 

    Post # 64
    8454 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’m seriously intrigued by all this bug talk. Are there no insects  in America then?

    Post # 65
    484 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    whitepeony :  I’ve had flat whites in Australia and they don’t hold a candle to the ones here 😉 But maybe I’m biased haha

    Post # 66
    140 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m not particularly outdoorsy – I grew up in a city and am much more urban, but I do enjoy nature as well. I spent 5 weeks in New Zealand and 8 weeks in Australia as part of a big backpacking trip and if I could only pick one, I would pick New Zealand, no questions asked.

    New Zealand is compact and gorgeous – like truly stunningly beautiful. The people are amazingly friendly, the food is delicious, and the hotels are lovely. I would suggest you compromise by only doing day hikes and staying in more b&b type places. For example, you can stay in beautiful little hotels along the Queen Charlotte Track on the south island. Your desire for comfort will be met, and your husband’s desire for nature will also be met (google pictures of the views, you will be blown away). You can drive in to Milford Sound (the drive in alone is part of the experience) and then take a boat ride. You can do an overnight boat trip on Doubtful Sound. I have done a lot of travel in this world, and I can honestly say New Zealand is one of the top if not top places I have ever been.

    Australia is also beautiful, but for whatever reason it didn’t strike me the same way. It’s so big and it’s fairly North American feeling. If you do go there, my favourite areas were the Great Barrier Reef (check out Lady Elliott Island and Hamilton Island for something special) and the Great Ocean Road near Melbourne. Sydney is beautiful as well and good for beaches if that’s your thing.

    Post # 67
    651 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2020

    I seriously think you could do both.  Buy a roundtrip to Australia and pop over to NZ for a few days.

    Post # 68
    37 posts
    • Wedding: March 2018

    northbynorthwest :   northbynorthwest :  Hi! I’m a New Zealander, living in Australia.

    Honestly if you are worried about heat, bugs (especially flies) then New Zealand is a WAY better option than Aussie. I live in the city of Melbourne and I can’t stand the flies in the summer. They DO NOT leave your face alone. Haha NZ doesnt have this issue at all! Plus NZ has no snakes at all!

    My Fiance is like yours, loves to hike for days on end. I’m more of a vineyard hopping or short walk to a stunning picnic spot kind of girl but whenever we go home to NZ to visit family I always try to make sure he gets in his hiking fix. Next March i’m even going to do the Tongoriro Crossing with him. As far as I know it’s not a bush hike, but more rocky terrain, with amazing scenery! Its a day hike so I can get back to a hot shower and a nice dinner out after! 

    NZ and Australia are both amazing places and only a 4 hour flight apart so if you’re coming this far you may as well do both. I may be biased but given the size of New Zealand, you could see a lot in a short period of time! 

    Hope this helped – (I do love Australia – especially Melbourne!)

    Post # 69
    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

    Why can’t you both go to Australia for around 5 days, and then let him go to NZ for a few days (maybe with friends?) while you head back and have some alone time or some girl time at home, or stay in Australia longer? You guys don’t have to do EVERYTHING together – maybe try a half vacation? Or you go along with to NZ after australia and you do more city stuff and he does more nature stuff and meet back up after a night?

    PS – I lived in New Zealand for 4 months during college. I was astounded how there were practically zero bugs! It was astounding!

    Post # 70
    662 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    As other Bees have said, I’m sure you can come up with a great compromise that works out well for both of you. You shouldn’t have to always do exactly what the other person wants in a relationship, so he shouldn’t feel compelled to settle for just going to Australia, and you shouldn’t want or expect him to. 

    Australia and New Zealand are close and there is plenty to do in each country aside from hiking and camping. However, since you’ve never been hiking or camping, I would suggest at least making some effort and giving one or the other a try. I would suggest hiking around New Zealand and taking in the scenery and what he wants for a day or two, and then head to Australia and do and see what you’d like for a day or two. 

    But if you’re really that against New Zealand, perhaps you can encourage him to go with his buddies. But I’m guessing he really would rather go with you. Not to be harsh, but quit being shallow and expand your horizons. 

    Post # 73
    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    I didnt get into the time to read all the previous post, but I only want to say NZ has amazing escenaries. You should go. There are many things to see, not only hiking, so you can plan several things that suit you both. 

    By The Way, I live in Australia and depending on how much time you have you could do both. Good luck 🙂

    Post # 74
    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    northbynorthwest :  <3 thanks bee! Things are really tough right now, I can’t get over the shake or the tsunami sirens, the loss of life, the devastation and the fear. There are navy ships here to help from all over the world, and the community has banded together, it’s incredible to see.

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