Post # 1
I’ve been trying to write this post for like two weeks… My dad passed away a couple weeks ago. It was sudden, he was young (57) and in good health, and his heart just stopped beating as he was laying in bed.
There’s been a lot to deal with of course, but what hurts a lot right now is that dancing with my dad and having him walk me down the aisle were two of the moments I was most looking forward to. My dad was my best friend, and I’m his only daughter. He was so freakin’ excited about my wedding, and this was a man who HATED weddings with all his might (they interrupted his Saturdays, which were precious to him).
I haven’t figured out where to go with all that. Likely I’ll ask my brother to walk me down the aisle but I haven’t gotten that far yet. We will probably not do parent dances at all (FI doesn’t want me to feel left out, I don’t want to dance with my brother, and I don’t think Fiance is real interested in dancing with his mom in the spotlight to begin with).
But there will just be a huge hole, on my wedding day and for the rest of my life. And I thought maybe somebody here would know how this feels just so I know I’m not alone. My wedding is in two months, on his birthday no less, and it just hurts, although we’ve decided 100% not to push it off. We would never get his birthday for a date again, and my family and I both need happy times after all this. It’s just going to be a harder day than I anticipated.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry for your loss. (hugs)
Post # 4
Oh, my gosh. I’m so so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family. Big hug!
Post # 5
I”m so sorry. I’m not sure if you feel this may qualify as understanding how you feel, but I lost my gramps (basically my father – my favorite person in the world) the week before my daughter was due. It’s not wedding related – but I do understand the feeling of being robbed of something on a very special day. He was so excited to meet her, he asked me every day when that baby was coming. Then suddenly he wasn’t there to see or know her. The one person I wanted her to meet the most was gone and he would never get to see that baby he was waiting to meet. She was born 4 hours late to be born on his birthday.
It’s a really shitty feeling, I’m so sorry your dad is gone, and won’t be there for you on your special day as well as all of the days going forward. But he will be there in spirit, because he’s in your heart.
Post # 7
i’m so sorry girl, that’s absolutely terrible *hug* your dad sounds like a wonderful man
i can’t say i know 100% how you feel but i can relate in my own way, my father basically disowned me when my parents got divorced when i was about 6, it hurt so bad, i had been a daddy’s girl all my life till then and he just dropped me like i was nothing to him, like he never even loved me at all. i am now 21 about to be 22 and he has still been absent from my life since then. as i approach my own wedding coming up next month i actually have been thinking a lot about it, when i see on tv or hear of people with their dad walking them down the aisle or having a father daughter dance it hurts my heart to know i wouldn’t be able to do something like that
like i said i know i can’t completely relate in the same way to the pain you are feeling but just know there are many of us “fatherless” out there. it’s terrible that he won’t be able to be physically at your wedding but he will definitely be with you then and always and especially so when you’re walking down that aisle
Post # 8
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Post # 9
Thanks all, and thanks for the stories… There’s a part of me that knows I’m not alone, but my friends don’t really get it- they all got married or are getting married around now, and they all got to have those moments. But I knew I’d find support here, and maybe that’s what I needed most.
Post # 10
I am so so sorry for your loss this breaks my heart. It sounds like you are about to marry a wonderful man, and dont forget even though he wont actually be there physically, your father wouldnt miss this day – he will be there. Dont forget to take a moment alone and talk to him on the big day <3 Sending thoughts and prayers your way… *hugs*
Post # 11
I am so sorry for your loss.Although i still have my dad, i lost my stepdad several years ago and i am having a really hard time dealing with it still. He was supposed to be such a big part of my day. If you are able to do so without totally losing it, i suggest doing everything you can to honor him on your day. for me doing those things makes it a little easier. PM me anytime if you want to talk!
Post # 12
im so sorry for your loss girl, just remember he’s still there with you on your wedding day! xox
Post # 13
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. While I don’t know how it feels to lose a dad, I do know how it feels to lose a mom. My mom passed away a couPle of months before I got engaged, and wedding planning and all that goes along with it was especially hard for me since that is a time most girls get to share with their moms! It’s so heartbreaking to lose a parent and it feels so unfair. You’ll be In my thoughts, but he’ll always be with you!
Post # 14
I am so, so very sorry for the loss of your beloved father. Today is the 2nd anniversary of my father’s death, and I had many tearful moments when planning my wedding thinking that he could not walk me down the aisle or dance with me. I know you’ll find some wonderful ways to honor him on your wedding day – I carried a cross my Dad gave me tied to my bouquet. It will not be easy, but remember how happy he was that you had found someone wonderful to spend your life with.
Post # 16
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad (he was only 56) two weeks after I got engaged. We are getting married in 3 weeks and it has been really hard and my dad is all I’ve been thinking about. We are doing a few simple things to honor him. Although he won’t be there physically, your dad will be there with you every step of the way! He wouldn’t miss it 🙂 I know exactly what you are going through so if you need to talk PM me!