Huge backlash from one cousin for not allowing kids – rant

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Busy bee

No kids is nothing strange for weddings. If she wants to boycott, then so be it. You’ve done nothing wrong or offensive or whatever.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

It sounds like it will be much more enjoyable if she boycotts it…there’s probably a reason her kids turned out to be monsters!!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Let her boycott–it sounds like a win-win to me! You have the celebration you want and she gets to spend the evening with her children.

If she’s having a tantrum because you’re not planning your event according to her wishes it’s easy to see where her children get their behavior. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

I definitely wouldn’t change a thing. She doesn’t sound any better than the kids. I do find it weird that you’re surprised at her reaction though, if you knew she’s boycotted before. Unlikely she’d change her mind between weddings.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Sorry she’s reacting so negatively. Maybe this means she’ll boycott your wedding. Fingers crossed! You don’t need that type of negativity at your wedding. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Boo fuckkity hoo to her. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Well her kids are a product of her so I’m not surprised she is acting like a child as well, her kids had to learn it from someone. Ignore her. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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pebbletots01 :  

Pffft.  Sounds like cousin waaayyy overestimates the value of her presence.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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pebbletots01 :  Sounds like you dodged a bullet with this one! Let her throw her temper tantrum and stay home with the children. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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pebbletots01 :  “She boycotted the last wedding we had in the family for the same reason. I’m floored she would react the same way!” Why are you floored? The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Following this pattern, she’ll probably boycot your wedding which sounds fine. If she texts you again (or messages, whatever) just don’t respond. It’s not going to change her mind so it’s wasted energy.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I don’t know why you are surprised if she’s reacted the same way to no-kids weddings in the past. But it really sounds like things will be more fun without her anyway.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It sounds like you’ve got a really good attitude about it all – and your family aren’t turning around to guilt trip you to appease her. Sounds like a win all round to me!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I’d stand your ground. She sounds like someone who thinks the world should revolve around her children. I don’t have kids yet, but I always find it so weird that people think strangers (or distant family members) should love their kids as much as they do. I hope when I have a kid I understand that it’s only me and DH that are obsessed with him/her and not the entire friggin world. They want to be the center of attention because that’s what she allows. Sounds like you dodged a bullet with her not coming! 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sometimes the trash takes itself out. Good on you!

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