(Closed) Huge family, Trouble picking groomsman/bridesmaids

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1565 posts
Bumble bee

This is a tough one! There is no one etiquette rule. When there are too many family members to ask, some people just ask family to be in the wedding party, other people just ask friends. Either way it’s egalitarian and no one’s feelings are hurt. 

How does your Fiance feel? I think it makes sense for him to ask his brothers to stand up with him, but beyond that, it’s up to him. He might want to ask your brothers, or he might want to ask his friends. I don’t think it’s up to you. And because it isn’t your decision, your brothers shouldn’t get offended if he doesn’t ask them. 


Post # 4
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think your Fiance could still ask all of them–six groomsmen doesn’t seem like a lot.  That way all eligible family could be included and no one’s feelings would be hurt.  Alternatively, you could have your brothers act as ushers, readers, MC’s–whatever roles you think suit them.  Though there’s no rule that says you have to include all family members, I’d probably still want them involved in some capacity.  Probably also depends on how close you all are, though.

Post # 5
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Your Fiance should have the option to choose his own groomsmen. If he goes with your brothers…great…if not…still not a problem.

However, if you want your brothers to be a part of the ceremony can they do a reading, escort family into the ceremony/reception, etc.

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