(Closed) Can I just scream?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Just wanted to wish you luck. I didn’t really go through this too much, it was just Fiance and I arguing about guests. We left parents out of it, but then again, we could because we were paying.

Maybe try sitting everyone down and having them talk through it rather than communicating through you and your Fiance. I doubt your parents would say to FI’s parents that they won’t share the cost in order to accomodate extra guests.

Post # 4
2691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

The only advice I can give would be to try and talk to your parents (which I’m sure you have already done). Just try to keep in mind that this is your special day and you should celebrate with who you want to celebrate with. Try to make your parents see this.

Good luck.

Post # 5
3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Do you and your Fiance want to add to the guest list or are you happy with it the way it is? I would decide what is best for the two of you- don’t base your decision based on what your parents or your FI’s parents want you to do.


Post # 6
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the most important thing is what YOU and YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND want.  If you do want to have more guests and it would make you happy, go for it.  If you are really unhappy and seriously want to elope, then elope.  Set up a monthly payment plan to pay your parents back for the money that you have already paid on deposits.  If you want to accept the extra money that has been offered, sit your parents down and say they are making you miserable and stressing you out just on principle.  Ask them if would they rather have a happy daughter?  Who has a great wedding day? Or would they rather ‘win’ this point with their future in laws?  If they love you unconditionally – and as your parents this is their job! – then they should be happy to give you the wedding day that you want, whether or not that means that you also accept a generous offer from someone else to help pay.

It really makes me mad when people turn wedding days into something else!  they should do whatever they can to make you have a special day!! good luck 

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