(Closed) Huge honeymoon problem! So mad!

posted 7 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: What should we do?
    Skip wedding, try to enjoy honeymoon : (42 votes)
    82 %
    Go to wedding, even if you'll be broke and have no money for fun activities : (4 votes)
    8 %
    Compromise, go to wedding, cancel nice resort and stay at budget condo instead to help with $ : (5 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    That sucks! I’m sorry!! This is about to sound harsh but why are you scheduling YOUR honeymoon around someone else?  Can you just switch places altogether and not have it cost more?  I think that’s ridiculous that they couldn’t even let you know about the date change when you were working one of those most important things of your life around them.  I would be done with that, but I give up easily lol.  

    Post # 4
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    4355 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think you should skip it. You already did your best to schedule YOUR honeymoon around their wedding. They didn’t even have the courtesy to keep you in the loop about their changes so I say eff it. Enjoy yourselves and leave when you planned to. There’s only so much bending over backwards you can do.

    Post # 5
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @jen24au: I agree.

    You have been bending over backwards to accommodate their wedding and involved them the whole way so they knew about it.

    At this point I think you’ve done MORE than enough and it’s really not worth your time and energy to change everything around for them.

    Could you maybe get to spend some time on Maui now? Inter-island flights are only 30 min and are really cheap. You could even go over for the day.

    Post # 7
    Member
    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I don’t know how much it costs to go to Hawaii but I assume a lot.  Have you considered one of those all-inclusive places? they’re running specials right now.  There’s one called Beaches that I think is geared towards families.  Or could you swap to the island you wanted originally?  You’ve done what you can, I wouldn’t worry about offending them anymore…

    Post # 8
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    1105 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I agree…..you’ve done everything you could to accommodate them, but it is your honeymoon, so go and have a fun and relaxing time and don’t even worry about not attending the wedding.  If they are good enough friends, they will completely understand.  We honeymooned in Oahu and had a fantastic time.  My personal experience and opinion is that Maui is just as touristy.  We were close to so much that we didn’t even rent a car and when we went on excursions, there was always a bus that was provided.  Even though we had packed days, it was still so relaxing to just be there and away from home and all the planning…..can you tell I really miss it:)  Anyway, I got completely off track……Stick with your plan and enjoy yourselves:)

    Post # 9
    Member
    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I don’t know how much it costs to go to Hawaii but I assume a lot.  Have you considered one of those all-inclusive places? they’re running specials right now.  There’s one called Beaches that I think is geared towards families.  Or could you swap to the island you wanted originally?  You’ve done what you can, I wouldn’t worry about offending them anymore…

    Post # 10
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    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    hehe oops…it sent twice!

    Post # 11
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    2395 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I say skip the wedding.  It is not your fault they informed you of the wrong dates.

    I don’t know if this will help out or not, but I stayed on Oahu for 5 days once and loved it!  My Darling Husband lived there for 3 years (military) and has nothing but good things to say.  Hopefully it will turn out great for you 🙂

    Post # 12
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    14486 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    O M G.  I cannot believe that!  If he’s a Groomsmen, I assume hes a good friend of your FI’s and you’d want to be there.  My first instinct and vote was to forget their wedding and enjoy your honeymoon.  But after thinking about it a little more… if you can move chnage your resort and make the budgets work out to afford it, I’d probably do that.  And well, now you dont have to stay on Oahu the whole time.  Do some island hopping and come back to Oahu the last day or two to explore and attend the wedding. 

    Post # 13
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    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee

    oooh.  FB communication with the groom.  Recipe for disaster. I am sorry it worked out this way but I think you should stick to your schedule.

    Who are you flying? The only thing I can suggest is “missing” your flight.  Super risky and they might make you pay.  But most of the time, I have gotten rebooked gratis for a (legit) missed flight.  Also, did you buy trip insurance?  In that instance, I def think you can “miss” your flight but you should be sure it covers it.

    Post # 14
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    14486 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @heather25:  eeek!  Have you ‘missed’ a flight and had to fly a different day??  I’ve only heard of that happening once to a friend of mine who got the date mixed up, but couldnt fly stand by or rebook cause it was already a different day and had to buy new tickets.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @pinkshoes: I almost missed the last flight of the day so I would invariably be booked on the next day.  Thank goodness that didn’t happen because I did want to get out.  I wonder if throwing it over to the next day would cause problems.

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