(Closed) Huge Problem Need Advice

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Did he give a reason as to why he can’t come? I think I would just leave everything as is. If it’s a very good reason, I would give him his gift anyway. If it’s because you guys aren’t friends anymore, then cut your losses and move on. I don’t think that many people are going to notice that his name is printed in the program but he isn’t standing up with you.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Just keep everything as is. no stand-ins needed. the bridal party doesn’t need to be even. you can’t control other people, so might as well move on. sorry for the upset

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i hope he had a good excuse!

Post # 6
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708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think you can do the 3 Groomsmen and 4Bridesmaid or Best Man and just leave everything as is. Instead of having everything reprinted, you could always put in a little card in the program saying that Groomsmen couldn’t be there. Kind of like when you go to the theater and the understudy is playing the role that night.

Post # 8
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

from your last comment it sounds like he never was even planning on being in your wedding and maybe just didn’t have enough guts to stand up. I would keep the programs the same and maybe just cancel the gift if you can, because from the sounds of it, it doesn’t sound like he did anything to even deserve a gift.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I agree with MsBlueberryBee – it just sounds like he completely forgot or dropped the ball on everything. Since it’s a personalized gift, it sounds as if you can’t return it…but I wouldn’t give it to him either at this point. He certainly isn’t deserving of it.

I wouldn’t change the programs though or have a stand in. I think you should be fine with the lopsided party. Have one guy walk with two girls!

Post # 10
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just go on without him. It’s not a “huge problem” – the rest of the guests likely won’t even notice. It was really unfortunate that he had to bail, and i’m very sorry about that. but everyone came to see YOU, not him, so I think it will be fine.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I’d just leave everything as is.

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