- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Our invites went out last Saturday and we’ve already run into a lot of issues with RSVP’s and unwanted guests. Our venue supplies 150 chairs for the ceremony and we are responsible for paying for every additional chair we need. Our reception holds 185 comfortably with an outside area for overflow (but really, who wants to be outside and miss out on everything)? Fiance and I had our guest list down to a “T” to fit our requirements.
I need help addressing each of these issues:
1. FI’s great uncle who lives locally was invited, along with his wife. He RSVP’d for he and his wife, as well as his 9-year old grandaugther who they recently got custody of (we’ve never met her). Fiance says they’re family, we should allow her.
2. One of FI’s groomsman was invited, along with his wife. They RSVP’d along with their two children. We had planned on family-only for the children, but Fiance feels guilty and says we should also allow wedding party children.
3. Another guest who was invited along with her husband, RSVP’d for both of them, along with their 5-year old daughter whose father is the Best Man (parents are split up but Fiance and I are friends with both of them). Best Man doesn’t want her there because of issues with the ex (her mom) but because she is a wedding party child, we have to allow her if we allow the previous two children.
4. FI’s coworker is divorced and has a 10 year old son. We addressed the invite to her only (she knows other people that will be there). She confronted Fiance at work and asked why she wasn’t given a guest on the envelope and stated every wedding she’s attended, she’s been given a guest. Fiance felt bad and told her it was a mistake, she could sure bring a guest. She isn’t dating anyone so it will be a complete stranger to us.
5. One of my coworkers was invited along with her husband. She RSVPd for 2 1/2 (her, her husband and her 1-year old daughter). I’ve already told her that we’re not having children outside of family and wedding party, so she was a little miffed but she knows not to bring the child (I hope).
6. And the worst for last. FI’s sister is a bridesmaid. I love her dearly but she doesn’t seem to grasp the financial aspects of OUR wedding (which we are paying for ourselves). She has a 5-year old son so the invite was to the two of them. She RSVP’d for 3. I just got off the phone with her and asked who this third person was and she said, exactly, “I don’t know yet, but I’ll find someone to bring before the wedding gets here.” Ummmm, NO! You’re IN the wedding and you’re family will all be there. We don’t know ANY of her friends, let alone some random guy she is going to invite at the last minute. Plus she is IN the wedding so if anything, this person will be on his own (how uncomfortable for him).
We’re only a week into receiving RSVPs and I’m already big time stressing. We’ve only had 2 “nos” and the rest have all been “yes” along with extra guests. Someone please tell me that it’s typical to get the “YES” RSVPs first and the “NO” RSVPs will start coming in later? Please tell me that’s true.