- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2015
im a regular. Too embarrassed to post this under my usual name though.
Im just at the point where Im not sure if I want to remain married or not. My husband and I have grown so far apart; we have nothing in common, rarely do anything together. I feel like we are roomates. We can pass each other in the house and not say a word to one another.
He has the worse mouth ever! Every other word is a cuss word. I cannot stand to be around it. I have asked him repeatedly to watch his mouth and its never helped.
He is disrespectful to me. For instance; today a weird number was calling my cellphone and I didnt answer it. He started screaming at me to answer the phone because its so effing stupid not to. I just said if it were important they will leave a message! He just kept yelling and yelling about how dumb I was because it could of been his dr appt calling for him. Turns out it was my dentist calling to remind me of my appt. They called the house phone as well to leave a message and he answered and said “yes shes here! then threw the phone at me and said “see i effing told you it was important! its the DENTIST!”and stomped off to slam the door. Talk about embarrassing when I had to answer the phone! Geeze!
we argue constantly about anything and everything. Im not one to let anybody talk to me that way so I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut. Being quiet or speaking up doesnt matter; its always the same outcome.
I sit on the other side of the house when he plays xbox because he constantly screams at the tv and is in a bad mood then rest of the night if his gaming isnt going in his favor.
He NEVER helps out around the house. Hardly ever. I do everything; work full time, do all the cooking, do all the cleaning, laundry, take care of the dogs. He constantly says that he does plenty by paying all the bills. I have free run of the money and can go and spend as I please but he has always held over my head that he makes more money than I do and he takes good care of me because he pays for everything. Wells news flash; Id rather be broke and happy than comfortable living and miserable.
We hardly ever have sex; For me thats really emotional and if Im not feeling loved and appreciated. Im not in the mood. I could go forever without sex anyway. Birth control has KILLED my sex drive anyway, along with his crappy attitude. We have different goals in life now than when we were newlyweds. I want kids eventually and he is now totally against it. Granted I would never have a kid being in this situation, im just saying if things were all roses and sunshine lol 🙁
We dont go out and do things together, or have date nights. I ask but he never wants to. He says hes rather just stay at home. The few times we do go out I never get compliments or anything 🙁 I ALWAYS say I love you first. He doesnt even wear his wedding ring because hes afraid hell “mess it up.” UM HELLO?!! its Tungsten. you cant mess it up!!!! thats why you picked it out genuis!
Im just at my breaking point. I have a newfound sense of freedom with my new job. Im just tired of his debbie downer attitude and feel like him and I could remain best friends we just are no longer compatible. We met super young and have been married quite a while… weve just grown apart. Ive talked to him about this before and he always makes the comment ” Well I wouldnt be suprised if you left me, I wouldnt blame you”
Ugh words of wisdom is appreciated.
P.S.—- How can I build credit? Everything has always been in his name so I have absolutely no credit at all. I do have my own bank account.
Thanks for the input. Sorry for the long rant 🙁