- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
I hope you don’t take offense to this response but I must say that I personally believe this is a bad idea and one that may leave you disappointed.
First of all, as a late dinner eater, 8:30PM sounds like prime time for a meal and, unfortunately, appetizers rarely fill me. For example, my company decided to serve canapes and cocktails for its summer party this year instead of a traditional sit down meal; no one was happy. The fact of the matter is, even though we knew that the food served would be limited to finger food, we all underestimated just how much food would be required to fill us.
All anyone was talking about during the event was how hungry they were and how much they wanted to leave to get real food.
Not only that, but we had an open wine and beer bar, which meant that everyone who was drinking was getting piss drunk because there wasn’t enough food to balance it out and no one felt like they should have to pay for food at the party. As a result, most people left pretty quickly and in worse moods than they started with.
What I’m trying to say is that even if people don’t complain to your face, you should anticipate discontentment amongst your guests and early departures.
Another thing is that it sounds like you don’t intend to cover all of the alcohol for the evening – and that’s fine.
However, if I wasn’t getting fed a full meal AND I was expected to pay for the majority of my drinks, then I’d really resent the welcome bags and cutesy gifts. Truthfully, I’d probably be thinking to myself that the host and hostess were a bit daft for spending money on that instead of food and beverages. I truly think you’ll find most of your guests will have left before the late night food even arrives.
Finally, the idea of having everyone together at the resort is nice but resorts are expensive. If I’m not getting fed and I’m paying for my own drinks, then, truthfully, I’m probably not going to shell out to stay at the resort. I’ll be at the Marriott down the road – especially if I’m coming in from out of town (cost of flights, gas, whatever + food + drink = expensive!). I’m even less likely to stay if I’m local.
I know it’s hard to receive criticism regarding your wedding plans but please give this more thought. If you disregard the snarky comments, you’ll realize that the bees here have almost unanimously given you the thumbs down on this plan.