(Closed) HUH!!!! Wedding cost sucks!!!

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@malouloune:  If it’s your parents that want the big chapel wedding, can they foot at least part of the bill?

Good luck! I see that you’re in Miami, too, I can just imagine how expensive venues/vendors are down there.

Edit: My Future In-Laws are better off than my single mom, so we’re going to them for extra money if we need it.

At first, they offered to pay whatever, and we gladly accepted. Then I went over some of the costs and my Future Mother-In-Law went crazy and said she could probably do our whole wedding for 2k! I politely argued with her, since she said she could do the catering, sewing her own tablecloths, etc.

A week later, without prompting, she came to me and my Fiance and again reminded us that she’s willing to help out with anything we need. So it all worked out πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We had 180 guests and managed to say under $10k…

We served a plated lunch instead of a dinner.  We used networking, friends, & aquaintances to find a DJ and photographers, we opted for less expensive flowers to keep the floral budget down, we decided to DIY our centerpieces which were bowls of candy to double as our favors, I bought my dress off the rack, Darling Husband and the guys wore suits instead of tuxes, we didn’t have videography or a limo, we didn’t go overboard with decorations/chari covers/fancy chairs/other things guest won’t really notice or remember.

We had a lovely wedding, have great photos from it, enjoyed ourselves, and our guests raved about how much fun they had (and I didn’t hear a single complaint that the chairs didn’t have covers on them!)

We made a list of priorities, and things that were lower on that list didn’t get as much of a chunk of our budget.  It’s totally possible πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I feel your pain! My FI’s dad has 13 brothers and sisters, my mom has 6 sisters, and my dad has 1 brother and 5 sisters! (FI’s mom has a regular amount LOL 2 brothers and 1 sister.) Our guestlist is sitting pretty at 300 – this is not counting wedding party, or parents. Sigh. My in-laws often complain about the budget, and I just kind of look at them, like really? We have to invite all of FI’s aunts and uncles, all 16 (32 if you count their spouses) of them, and their kids… if we didn’t, we’d have them mad at us for being rude.

Sometimes you just can’t win. I wish I had some constructive advice for you. We found an all-inclusive venue which brought down some of the costs – maybe look into something like that?

Best of luck!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel your pain, too!  We wanted a small wedding w/ a small budget.  It definitely didn’t happen. Darling Husband and I paid for our wedding ourselves so we were nice enough to include my extended family and their many kids. 

It’s going to be hard but I’m sure you can handle it.  The Bees will be here to give you support.  Good luck!

Post # 9
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1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@malouloune:  Oh ok good it’s all taken care of. Yeah, good luck with tuning him out lol. And maybe that’s just his way of expressing his excitement that his little girl is getting married πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

We are inviting 400 people and our budget is 5k.  Don’t stress! Everything will be fine. Make lots of lists and budgets and plans. Check them OVER and over and over.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@malouloune:  Haha! We had to make a lot of compromises originally. Hoping all 400 won’t come, because our venue (church) seats 300 comfortably.   We are doing away with a traditional reception and just having cake, desserts, coffee, punch, mints, pretzels, etc. No formal seating – just a meet and greet. I stopped having reception nightmares (literally) when we decided to do this. πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@malouloune:  “5k for 400? ok i must really suck at this LOL”

Not at all.  She lives in Kentucky. You live in Miami. Costs definitely are not the same in those two markets. However, you may be able to implement some cost-cutting measures that other bees have used. 

I can relate to your experience. My original budget almost tripled. 

Post # 14
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3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@TogetherThroughLife:  Omg, how do you even know 400 people to invite? What are you going to do if more than 300 RSVP yes?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think where you live plays a big part of this too. 

We eliminated cousins, we just told eveyrone form the star that it would be a small intimate wedding celebration… and originally had planned to do a restaurant and courthouse, but that turned into a real wedding with reception venue etc-just do the best you can to cut the guest list and ask parents for help-if they are so into inviting everyone, why not?! πŸ™‚ good luck! 

you could always just say screw it and go to vegas, or Hawaii for that amount! another bee on here, had an amazing looking wedding in vegas, full blows gown and tux, a few friends and it really looked amazing… 

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