Post # 1
Ahhh 1 week until wedding day and I have not yet written my vows. I was perusing some posts to get inspiration. Everything I read was so beautiful, eloquent, and heartfelt. I got some great ideas. However, I noticed that none of the vows I read had any sort of humor injected in them. If our vows were too serious and mushy then the ceremony wouldn’t be a reflection of us. We were drawn to eachother by our sense of humor and we are known to our friends and families as the "funny" ones. I don’t want to make a mockery of our wedding, but I just can’t see me saying vows without saying something to make him laugh. What do you ladies think about injecting a hint of humor in to our wedding vows?
Post # 3
I think you summed it up perfectly: "If our vows were too serious and mushy then the ceremony wouldn’t be a reflection of us."
I think it would be very sweet & memorable to hear something different than the standard vows! With that being said… just because you’re injecting humor doesn’t mean your vows won’t still be heartfelt & beautiful. I think the vows will be even more special because they are a true reflection of you as a couple!
All the best!
Post # 4
Def. make your vows a reflection of who you are as a couple! Right after we got engaged, we saw an episode of "Curb Your Enthusiasm" where Larry and Cheryl were doing a vow renewal and Larry couldn’t come up with anything for his vows, so he asked Cherly if he could hear hers so he could get on the same page. Cheryl wrote very nice vows, which ended with "And I promise to love you not only through this life, but through all of eternity". Larry’s reaction is priceless – he says "Wait, I didn’t sign up for this. I thought we were done at death. I said till death when we got married; I didn’t know that was a forever type of thiing"… he goes on and on about it. Anyway, during the actual ceremony, Cheryl does her bit about eternity and Larry hems and haws and finally says that he’ll be with her through eternity.
For most of our engagement, this was a running joke between us. On our wedding day, we said the traditional vows. My husband said his first, and repeated after the officiant perfectly – and ended with "all the days of my life…… and through eternity". It got a big laugh (in hindsight, why were people laughing??) from me and our guests, and I repeated the sentiment right back to him.
It made our ceremony and vows that much more special. I’ll never forget it! Long story short – a touch of humor is always appriproate 🙂
Post # 5
Take a fun twist on the reading. We are doing Hands of the Bride and Groom and it’s a little softy and sweet. You could easily change the words to be more fun. instead of "these are the hands that will hold you when you cry" or something like that, it becomes, "these are the hands that bring you jello when you’re sick", etc.
You could also do a reading of "i wanna grow old with you" by adam sandler which is cute but also funny!
I’m not a huge sappy mush fun and we filtered out a LOT of stuff from our vows so they reflected our more easy-going, anti-PDA, anti-mushy personalities. We don’t do that kind of stuff regularly, and I’d probably crack up during the ceremony if my Fiance said something way over the top romantic/mushy. It wouldn’t be real!
Post # 6
Go for it! =) Above anything, your vows should be a reflection of you. I’m planning on having humour in mine (as well as sappiness) because that’s WHO I AM.
(And if anyone thinks its inappropriate, too bad for them.)
Post # 7
I think a little humor is fine, especially if it reflects your personalities. Your wedding is YOUR day.
Post # 8
My sister is an ordained Presbyterian minister and she performed our ceremony and it was filled with humor. That’s who she is and who we are. And it in no way, shape or form was a mockery.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
If you and your FH feel that humorous vows are a better representation of the two of you as a couple, go for it! I’m sure your guests will appreciate it!
Post # 10
Thank you all so much, I feel a lot more comfortable going forth with the writing process now! I was brainstorming all last night and I think my writers block is gone. May the vows begin.