- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Moral of the story: if you plan on feeding your guests, pleaaaaaase make sure you have enough food!
(Note: I am not criticizing those that only have a punch and cake reception or appetizers only reception)
I debated about posting this, but I figured I would since food seems to one of the biggest things people remember about weddings.
FI and I attended a wedding last night for one of his friends. It was at a very posh (i.e. expensive) hotel in downtown Chicago. The last few weeks FI’s friend was complaning about how much this wedding was costing them (even though both sets of parents gave them quite a bit of money toward it). Neither of us have been to a reception at this hotel before.
The invitation stated that the ceremony was at 3:30 and the reception started at 6. We went to the ceremony and there was around an hour and a half gap before the reception was supposed to start (ceremony and reception were at 2 different places). We were both pretty hungry because it was an hour drive into the city and as we drove to the hotel, we realized we weren’t sure if there was appetizers at the cocktail hour or not. The invitation did not state there was, so I assumed there was not. I suggested we stop somewhere for a quick bite – even just a McDonald’s hamburger or something. We couldn’t find anything close to the hotel so FI ran into a drug store (FI double parked while I waited in the car) and grabbed some chips and pop for us.
Since it was too cold to do anything else, we drove over to the hotel and saw the line for the valet parking was around the block. So it took us around 25 minutes to get the car parked.
I was correct in that there was no appetizers during the cocktail hour, just an open bar. By the time all the speeches were done, dinner wasn’t served until 7:30. We sat at a table with FI’s other friends and we were basically talking about how hungry we were, especially the guys.
The dinner started with a small cup of lobster bisque soup. I am allergic to lobster so I gave it to my FI. They all said the soup was very good and wished they had a bigger portion.
The main entree was a pasta dish that was similar to pasta primavera, but unfortunately it had shrimp in it. Again, I couldn’t eat it. There was no salad, and because this pasta dish had vegetables in it, there was nothing else served with it. Every one at the table was like “what are you going to eat?” and I wasn’t sure what to do as I really didn’t want to cause a scene. My FI found the head waiter and explained my allergies and asked if they could make a batch for me without the shrimp. Fortunately they were very accomodating and said that they’ve had a few requests for this and would make me a plate as well.
Well I didn’t get my plate until everyone else was done eating (it honestly took probably 5 minutes to eat). I should add the plates were quite small too. For desert they only had a small bowl of lemon italian ice. They had a candy table and it appeared everyone was attacking the table because they were so hungry!
Well you can imagine after having an open bar and very little to eat that some of the guests got a little rowdy. Nothing was broken, but the bride’s brother made a complete fool out of himself the way he was acting. I should add that I am diabetic and have an insulin pump and because I didn’t eat much, I didn’t want to drink at all. The couple had a really good band and people did dance, but many guests left early.
Unfortunately, all FI’s friends were talking about was going and getting something to eat. We snuck out of the reception and went to the hotel’s bar only to find that they didn’t serve food, only drinks.
By around 10 I started to get a little lightheaded and said I needed to eat something. FI is awesome when it comes to me not feeling well and told his friend we were leaving. A bunch of us headed out and we met at a burrito place out in the suburbs where many of us live.
I’m not trying to whine or be a baby, but it kind of irks me when I realize how much we gave them as a wedding gift. I was expecting more from the couple. If you want to cut costs, IMO food should not be one of those areas. Have the reception as a less expensive venue. I think they are going to wind up being the couple whose wedding is talked about in a negative way. The bride’s gown was gorgeous (I complimented her and she said it was a Vera Wang, even though I didn’t ask). The real flowers were exquisite and I’m sure the band was a pretty penny.
As an added note, my FI got a text today from his friend the groom who said that he and his new wife had a fight about the lack of food at the reception. The groom kind of let his wife plan everything and he just assumed there would be at least appetizers. Yikes.
Sorry for the vent.