Post # 1
A friend of mine (that lives across the country from me and i have not seen in about 3 years) wrote me an email stating that i hurt her feelings.. She said the reasoning is because she did not get an invitation to my wedding (even though it was already discussed that she would probably not be making it because of flight prices). So of course i didnt send one. But when she sent me an email a week ago asking where her invite was i told her that i thought she wasnt coming and that i was originally going to send her one (just because) so she would just have it as a sort of keepsake or something but i forgot.. i didnt think it was a big deal because she wasnt coming anyways.. well she emailed me saying i hurt her feelings. and then posts it all over her facebook that she is very hurt and someone close to her hurt her and blah blah and all her friends are asking her “whats wrong?” and “oh im sorry” and this all just seems very very odd to me… Does it to you? I dont want to tell her she is blowing things wayyy out of proportion but she is. Does anyone else agree? or am i totally in the wrong here??
Post # 3
You’re both a bit wrong. You’re supposed to send invitations to everyone you want to invite, even if they’ve indicated that they cannot come. She’s being a drama queen.
Apologize for the oversight and indicate that you absolutely want her there, but felt like you were pressuring her to come even though she said finances were tight. Then send an invitation and move on. Hopefully she’ll move on, too.
Post # 4
@MidwestBride2012: Thanks, thats exactly what i did
Post # 5
Yeah, you probably should have sent her one. So many things can change and she may be able to come. So while she is being a huge drama queen, I would apologize for the misunderstanding and send her an invite and hope it blows over (since I don’t think there’s much else you can do). Does she think she’ll be able to come now?
Post # 6
I can’t stand when people broadcast their hurt feelings all over Facebook, but at the same time, you discussed the wedding with her, so she was probably expecting the invitation. Definitely apologize, mention how much you’d love her there, but that you understand about the travel costs and all of that, and tell her you never intended to hurt her feelings!
Post # 7
Wow. Are we back in high school? While yes, it might have been nice to send her one, she told you she couldn’t come! And then if you send invites to people you know can’t come, people feel obligated to send a present and then people talk bad because you are ‘gift grabby” so you can’t win.
Post # 8
@RunsWithBears: No she is still not able to come
Post # 9
I find it ridiculous that she acted that way about hurt feelings and is still not able come. Hope it blows over.
Post # 10
Eek… yeah, she is waaay over reacting. I mean, I don’t blame her for being a little hurt, but posting all over FB is a bit much. Sounds like you’ve done all you can, hopefully it all blows over.
Post # 11
While her reaction is over the top, I agree that you should have sent her an invitation.
Post # 12
*big sigh* I so hate it when people sub post on Facebook…you know they are talking about you but others dont….ugh.
Back to the subject…I do understand that you forgot though. Shoulda sent her one. Apologize and I think she needs to offer up an apology too for being a queen.