(Closed) Hurt and confused about my maid of honour

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Is she jealous?
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    7560 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    That’s pretty strange. Is it just this one instance of her being negative? If so, I would try to let it go. Maybe she was jealous or upset about something, but I woudn’t let it ruin the whole relationship. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Its tough to say. Why dont you ask her? Say “I feel liek lately you have been really negative about me and my recent wedding. Is everything OK?

    People take their own emotions out on other people, and sometimes they dont realize it.

    Maybe its jealousy and she doesnt know you are noticing it. Maybe she is sad she is nto getting married (its not the same as jealousy). Maybe she feels you have been distant and left her behind with your new marriage. Maybe she feels you have been birdezilla and is, in her own way, bringing you down a notch. Maybe she … the point is there are 100s of reasons. Ask her in a nice way before it ruins your relationship. 

    Being kind and straight forward surprises most people and gets you the most honesy response and allows you two to work it out.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3204 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would just ask her, in a nice way, why she feels the need to put your wedding down. Yeah, maybe your wedding had a few hiccups, what wedding doesn’t? It is in the past and harping on about it doesn’t change anything except how you feel towards her. I would just let her know that you are hurt that she feels the need to criticize your special day in that manner (completely unnecessary) and see what she has to say about it. I think there is an underlying issue (maybe not even having to do with you) and if you guys are really good friends you should be able to talk it through.

    Post # 6
    Member
    11270 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i honestly don’t know why anyone would say things like that to anyone let alone their bf.  is she normally that negative about things?  it sounds like she’s a bit jealous and she’s just trying to cope with what she wants and doesn’t have yet.

    just enjoy your marital bliss and disregard her negativity.  i’m sure your wedding was wonderful.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1084 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I would just forget about it. You have spoken to her, and she has apologised.

    Post # 9
    Member
    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t think she is a good friend. To make u feel better, my moh cancelled on me a week before the wedding. I haven’t talkedton her since.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1301 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @faithdriven:  Yep she is jelous. And her making you feel sh1t about your wedding is a way of making her feel better about her own life as she is obviously unhappy with her own life to treat you so poorly. 

    I had people do the same thing to me around my wedding and I turned it on its head and was happy as I was marrying a man who would never behave like this. Just be happy you have the man of your dream and that you have an amazing life!

     

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