(Closed) Feel like I'm losing a best friend

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
2577 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would be offended.

It is not like it is a NEW NEW baby. One of my friends attended a wedding THREE DAYS after giving birth.

I actually am meaner than you, I think she COULD and SHOULD have attended your wedding if you were clse friends.

Looks like she is going to just isolate herself and make the child the only priority.You cannot do anything to change that.

Post # 4
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wonder if she might be struggling with post partum depression, or seperation anxiety??

Post # 5
1813 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Jamieg:  This!  How is she feeling in herself?

Post # 6
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t take it personally. It sounds like she has her hands full, and like others said could be post partum or a lot of things. Her priorities are different now and I think behavior was quite reaonable given her circumstances. I do think she should have gave you a card!

Post # 7
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I always look at life from the aspect that everyone is doing the best that they can with the resources that they have at that very moment.  For whatever reasons, she couldn’t bring herself together for these things, as hurtful as it may seem…so I think that it’s important to find out what happened/is going on that is making her act this way.  I can understand that you’re upset though, I’m sorry! Frown

Post # 8
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It would have been nice to get a card.

Post # 9
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I’d be offended, too. She sounds like she’s being self-involved right now. True, “priorities” change, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t worth the 5 seconds it would take to send you a card, or something other than a spur of the moment text message. 

If she had guests at the Christening and left you out, and you were good friends, I’d take that as a message of where you now stand with her, and I’d put my stock in better friends. 

Post # 10
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I think she probably has her hands full right now. She is in new baby land and it can be really consuming. I also want to throw out there, in my family Chrisenings are a family event- we don’t invite friends.

Yes, it would have been nice to send a card/gift but I wouldn’t be upset about not getting one for this many months.


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