- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2010
Couple of days ago, I arranged a bridesmaids’ lunch for my ladies because some of them don’t know each other.
So we were discussing wedding traditions and how the catholic ceremony works (FI and I are catholic and having a catholic wedding) and most of my BMs are not catholic. One of my BM’s said that she is very familiar with the ceremony because she used to be catholic and went to a catholic school when she was young. My other Bridesmaid or Best Man then asked her why she converted from roman catholicism to a different religion and she blurted out, “Because it’s the truth, I found the truth!!!”
So I sat there and was just super offended by her comment, because I felt that she was implying that what I believe is all a lie, and that’s why she left. I’ve heard people say that what they believe is the truth and I do respect that, but I guess I’ve never heard it in comparison to my own religion, like I left your religion because it’s a lie. And for some reason, I guess I was too hurt to react or say something (I tend to keep quiet when I’m hurt or angry). I mean, she is entitled to her own opinion and beliefs, but this time, I just felt weird. I’ve never had problems with my friends having different religions (in fact, only one Bridesmaid or Best Man is catholic) and I’ve never felt differently about them or their beliefs. My friends and I have always been open about religion and the differences in our practice but we’ve never put down another’s beliefs.
What I’m trying to say is that I feel kind of weird having her there in my uber-catholic ceremony and having such an important role in my wedding when I know that deep inside, she doesn’t believe in all that we’re doing there. The sermon, offering of flowers to the virgin mary… stuff like that… I can’t help but think that maybe while we’re doing the ceremony, inside she’d be like, “This is all BS!”
I wish she could’ve said something nicer like, “I converted because I don’t believe in the practices of roman catholics anymore”, or something to that effect. Ugghh, now I feel really stupid for writing this because I know it’s super petty. But I just can’t imagine her anymore in my catholic ceremony, because I know that she might feel like my wedding is all a big lie.
Ughh, sorry, this is super long. I’ve never told anybody about this because I’m afraid that they might say that I am overreacting. Am I overreacting? Ahhh, I think the stress of wedding planning is making me extra emotional.