Post # 61
I have just added to the madness and instanly asked the same thing! I feel thoroughly disappointed in myself.
Post # 63
coming from a 52 year old lady I don’t even know what troll means but I’m assuming it means someone who is joking or lying?… I know I may came off as mean in my post but I’m not upset that my son has grown up to be an amazing husband. I expected nothing less of him. I just feel like they have cut me out and my daughter from thier lives. It’s already hard enough to lose my son after they got married and now after the arrival of my grandchild they really have put me on the back burner. My DIL and I have had are fair share of disagreements and I feel like she is using her new family to finally cut me out for good. As of my son him saying “youre the best mom in world” is hurtful to me. I don’t think he should have said “you are a great mom just not as good as mine” but something like ” you will be an amazing mom just like my mother was.”
Post # 64
how did you even end up on this site?
Post # 65
Its very hard for us to help you based on what you have provided us. question I would ask is, are you actually being cut out or do you “feel” you’re being cut out. The difference is rather large and I would get you to do some introspection and even see a counselor to help you sort out you’re feelings and why you feel this way. That way you can work on finding a solution that will work for everyone involved.
Post # 66
you sound like my Future Mother-In-Law….just a little advice here. Man leaves his mother and becomes one with his wife. Whether you’re religious or not this is how it is in life. You should be proud of how great he is treating his wife. I got pregnant a year ago and had a MC and we told my Future Mother-In-Law and she told her enitre fucking family (including family overseas) because she wanted the control…to be the one to announce our news. Now, when I get pregnant again…she won’t know until 15 weeks….why? Because I said so and I can. Back off, you will lose your son over this. He WILL chose his wife, as he should!
Post # 67
I found the site through Google seach MIL/DIL problems forums and boards to this website came up.
Post # 68
Guess what?! You SHOULD be on the back burner! The moment your son married you became extended family. His family is his wife and child. I spend alot of time on a different website where people learn how to deal with crazy, boundary stompping family memebers. I pray your Dil finds us because I can tell she needs us.
They are adults! You have no right to be upset that they waited to tell you Dil was pregnant. You Dil is not hogging HER HUSBAND. Husband trumps son.
Let me just say this that just based on your post I see why they are pulling away from you, and if you were my mother or mil you would be on a fast road to CO.
Post # 69
You are the reason there are so many MIL/DIL post on this forum…
Post # 70
You’re not going to find too many people to sympathize with you on here. You may look for another site. Not trying to run you off, but most ladies on here are about to be engaged, engaged, newlyweds, about to start a family, pregnant or just had babies. You may look up “Mother in Law” forums, or something.
Post # 71
How do YOU know they didn’t have a miscarriage. Maybe she has health issues that could make carrying a child difficult and it was the doc’s recommendation to wait to tell. YOU KNOW NOTHING!! This is all about you! Start thinking about your son and DIL in a positive way or you won’t be a part of the child’s life at all. He was caught up in the moment after his wife gave birth, it’s not like he was preparing a Best Mom in the World Speech and left you out. ALSO, is her MOM all up in arms because he said she would be a wonderful mom and DIDN’T include her. I don’t think so.
Post # 72
I’d just like to make mention that I was moderated for “name calling”… I wasn’t calling anyone names… I suspected this was a troll post. To the OP, if this is actually real, regardless of what I think, I would not, and did not intend to personally insult you.
Post # 73
Okay everyone, this thread seems to have run its course.
I’m closing it now for review.