(Closed) Hurt… by sister…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I love your dress. You look amazing. I said this earlier to someone else, but you really won’t even notice her on your day. You will just be so focused on your now Darling Husband that what other people are doing wont even cross your mind. I really only remember when people came up to us. Don’t let her spoil your day. It’s not about that.

Post # 4
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

First, I LOVE the thing around your waist! Your dress is amazing.

I know it’s so hard but please don’t let her get you down.  I actually feel sorry for people like your sister because they don’t know the awesome joy of loving other people and being loved.  

As much as you might be seeking her approval, I think you need to let that go.  Sometimes giving up on our expectations of people is the key because when you don’t expect anything from them, they can no longer let you down!!  I would sit her down and talk to her about the wedding party situation.  Tell her that you’ve heard she is not able to be in it, pretend to be understanding and then move on.  Making drama or calling her out is only going to create more issues for yourself and you don’t need that right now.

But I would have to say you do really need to invite her to the wedding.  Yes she sucks now and that might be the case forever, BUT on the off chance that you become closer years down the line, you don’t want to always regret not at least giving her the opportunity to come to the wedding!!

Try to give yourself a night to be upset about this, talk to her bluntly and move forward.  I’m sure you have a wonderful Fiance who can be there for your right now as well.  Lean on him and your mom.  Best wishes!

Post # 5
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5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I totally agree with mwitter80 And you do look fantastic in that dress!!!!

You’ve done your part… now comes the hardest part and that is let your sister keep her own junk. If she wants to be ugly, or upset, then that’s on her NOT you.

And really.. on your big day you’re going to be so overcome with happiness with your new Darling Husband that you really won’t notice… Just keep being kind hearted and don’t let the way she acts effect you (I know easier said then done BUT it is possible) ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 7
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2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

first of all your dress is beautiful!!!!! secondly, although she is your sister and you want her approval, some people will never be happy for others. she is obviously unhappy in her own life and wants to make everyone around you miserble. my suggestion, stop trying to mend something that is obviously not going to be fixed anything time soon and put in in God hands. Im sending you lots of hugs!!!

Post # 7
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231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You look fantastic! 

I’m sorry to hear that your sister couldn’t say those words. I’ve had my sister do some not so nice things since I’ve been engaged, and I know it can hurt. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 8
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You look beautiful, and though your sister obviously has a callous streak, Im glad to see you are still trying to reach out to her- that says a lot about you dear.

Post # 9
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1211 posts
Bumble bee

You look fantastic. Kick your sister to the curb for the wedding. I don’t say that lightly, I won’t be inviting almost half my family including my father. I know how bad families can be. You shouldn’t have to put up with her toxicity simply due to some shared DNA.

Post # 10
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2691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think you look gorgeous!

Post # 12
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470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh!  What a terribly bitchy thing to say…she sounds awful I’m sorry she hurt your feelings.  You look wonderful in that dress andI LIKE the thing around your waist.  You look so happy in that picture & you look beautiful.  I say don’t invite her – this is a special day for you and she sounds like the type who would try to ruin that. 

Post # 13
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m so sorry about your sister, people can be so cruel! It seems like some people are born without any kind of metal borderline, hey? All I can say is, it’s your wedding, so do what you want! I understand it’s hard but if you don’t want something then don’t have it.

Btw, I absolutly adore your dress, it amazing! And it suite you 10000% ๐Ÿ™‚ You look stunning in it!!!

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