Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2016 - Our little church
I’m trying my best not to wear my feelings on my sleeve, but when you have a few “mean” comments about your wedding how can I not be hurt? My Fiance and I decided to get married this year after advice from our mothers. Our budget is limited however, I’m very creative and Fiance family knows caterers, photographers, and decorators. We pulled all resources together including the family church and dining hall and BAM! We have our wedding mapped out our little Southern Church Wedding.
My family (The Californians) have been butt cracks! I had tons of projects to do and when I joyfully told them about it, they’re comment was you shouldn’t be having no big wedding if you cannot afford it. WTF!?! I just wanted to tell you something anyway. I had to explain that it wasn’t a big wedding it is a church wedding. I had to explain tons of time.
The issue my cousin is also getting married this year. She has a career and I’m mainly at home. Its been hard being the “broke bride” in my family. Well, my wedding is this Saturday at our church and I plan on having a great time.
PS I’m so mad that I don’t even want to send them pictures.
Post # 2
Pardon my french but f*ck it. Your wedding sounds like its going to be amazing and you seem to be super excited about it! Don’t let them feel like you’re the “broke bride” you’re the happy and excited bride that had time to be super hands on in the planning of her Southern Church Wedding! I don’t doubt you’ll have an amazing day and the memories and feelings around marrying the love of your life will overpower any negativity! Post pictures when you’re off cloud 9! x
Post # 3
don’t listen to them! No one has to have a big wedding. Even is you were a millionaire, you might only want a small intimate wedding. There’s nothing wrong with that. Personally, I think I would rather have 25 people who know us well come to celebrate our wedding with us, then have a great dinner together, where I can spend a lot of time with each person, than a huge wedding of 400+, where I can only stop to talk to people for 5 minutes, then have to move on to the next group….
Dont let them get you down! I’m sure you’ll have a great wedding. I love when people do all the stuff themselves – you can really feel their love in all their work.
Post # 4
I dont think most people get excited and my family is the kind that make little sniping comments aswell because before hand they think they have a say… just ignore it afterward I bet they will eat their words
Post # 5
can’t wait to see all the pics of your recap! I love seeing DIY projects. I have zero artistic ability myself but really enjoy seeing the art people manage to create
Post # 6
Oh, let them talk. It’s you’re day. As long as you love it; that’s all that matters.
Post # 7
I’m the kind of guest who loves to see DIY projects at weddings – in one of the best weddings I’ve attended, the bride (a long time friend of FI) hung pictures around the venue of all their friends from different events (she even included a picture with me in it from a wedding that she didn’t attend, so it felt like she made an effort to include me because I wouldn’t have been in any other picture).
There were a lot of DIY items at that wedding and it felt so personal and just really clever – it wasn’t a big wedding, they had more friends than family members (the couple does not have a big family). After the wedding we all agreed it was one of the best weddings – it felt so intimate and as the 90% of the guests were friends we knew more people and enjoyed it more – much better than attending a 400 guests wedding where you know 2 people…
You are going to have a fabulous wedding on Saturday! Can’t wait to see all the photos!
Post # 8
Surround yourself with people who are HAPPY and THRILLED for you. It really brings down your spirit if people you care about constantly make snide comments or take digs at your upcoming dream day.
It;s ok to not go FULL Disclosure with people, even Family and just share on a Need-to-Know Basis.
I was very careful with protecting my ‘happy space’. If you werent happy for me or supportive, you were “placed on hold” until after the wedding. Our big day was way too important for me to be bogged down by nay sayers. I dont remember being anything but overjoyed on my big day because negative people- family or not, were given no press, no time and no mental space.
My motto was…Love ya, cant stand ya right now. Talk to me in 2 weeks when I’m coming down from my wedding day high It was fabulous! Joy abundant! lol
Post # 9
Wow, screw them. Post your pics here. We’d love to see them and share in your day.
Post # 10
I had a second marriage, second wedding and we are both in our 40’s…very successful.
We had 12 friends over in our backyard for a surprise wedding. For us, we spent very little money but it turned out so awesome and unique.
Everyone from our caters and photographer told us how awesome it was.
We told friends we were having a house warming BBQ in the backyard and surprised them at the door in our wedding clothes.
14 total including us. We played music on our sound system, paid $500 for a photographer and bought my dress at a super discount $300 from BHLDN!
To this day I love it more than my first wedding which would have bought us a nice car for what was spent.
Do not let anyone ruin it for you.