(Closed) Hurt feelings… just need to talk….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m so sorry, that sounds really hard.

BUT, you’re dealing with it very, very well! Kudos! If at some point you don’t want to handle the comments anymore, you could try saying something like “that comment really hurt” in response. See what she says. Has your Fiance talked to her about this?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

RIGHT!!! sorry just had to type that in capitals. I dont really have much words of advice, but in laws are a fickle thing. Mine dont even talk to me part for FHs sister. So at least she mumbles you a sentance.. How bout a trade? lol jk.

Sorry your going through this. best of luck tho…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Have you asked your Fiance to sit down have a talk with her. Just to explain to her that some of her words and actions are hurting your feelings and how you are trying to make the effort to include her. He may even have to get a little stern with her to get the point accross that especially on your wedding day it will not be ok to act this way. Good luck!

Post # 6
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235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

—> hors d’oeuvres

It’s a mouthful!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think that I could tolerate her negativity so soon to the wedding. It doesn’t seem as though she’s all that interested in being a part of the planning anyway, so I wouldn’t bother, it’s just upsetting you, and that’s not fair.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Not a fun situation, I think you are doing good trying to include her.  I know her comments are hard.  Does your mom know that this is just how the Future Mother-In-Law is?  That way your mom knows to take any negitive comments from Future Mother-In-Law with a grain of salt?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Talk to Fiance about this.  He needs to stand up for you and his mother needs to know she is behaving badly. 

Next time she makes a comment that is rude, ask why she would say that.  And explain that you and your Mom have worked hard to put together your wedding and reception and you don’t appreciate her snide remarks. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh how frustrating and annoying! I think your Fiance definately needs to step in and make it very clear to his family that ill treatment towards you will not be tolerated. Talk to your Mom too. Let her know about the troubles you have with his family and for her to try to not take anything to heart and you guys just try to be the better people and rise above it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That’s really nice of you to still try to include her even though she’s being evil. I can’t say that I would still be talking to them except to just say hello and that’s it.

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