Post # 1
As some of you may know from other post, i;m am not the most liked by my FIL’s. However, I have always been overly nice to them, even though they don’t deserve my kindness.
My mother has put so much, time, energy, work, and money into our wedding. So out of respect, I didn’t want Future Mother-In-Law to feel left out. (Keep in mind, our wedding is about 1 1/2 to two months away, and she has even yet to say congratulations.) Besides the point, I didn’t want her to feel left out or secluded, so last night I took her a picture of an outdoor wedding reception and what I thought ours would look like to, first she says, “So your serving a dinner?” I replied, “No, just heavy orderbs (sp)?” She replies, ‘well, thats more of a setting for a dinner.” I let that one go, and I was telling her about the napkins, how we got the long slim ones instead of the square ones, and she says, “well those are more for dinner, not for lunch.” AHHHHHHHH!!!!
My mother has put so much hard work into this, I do not want Future Mother-In-Law saying things like this at the wedding and hurt my moms feelings… Future Mother-In-Law hasnt even said congratulations. She could at least be respectful of the plans we have made.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry, that sounds really hard.
BUT, you’re dealing with it very, very well! Kudos! If at some point you don’t want to handle the comments anymore, you could try saying something like “that comment really hurt” in response. See what she says. Has your Fiance talked to her about this?
Post # 4
RIGHT!!! sorry just had to type that in capitals. I dont really have much words of advice, but in laws are a fickle thing. Mine dont even talk to me part for FHs sister. So at least she mumbles you a sentance.. How bout a trade? lol jk.
Sorry your going through this. best of luck tho…
Post # 5
Have you asked your Fiance to sit down have a talk with her. Just to explain to her that some of her words and actions are hurting your feelings and how you are trying to make the effort to include her. He may even have to get a little stern with her to get the point accross that especially on your wedding day it will not be ok to act this way. Good luck!
Post # 7
I don’t think that I could tolerate her negativity so soon to the wedding. It doesn’t seem as though she’s all that interested in being a part of the planning anyway, so I wouldn’t bother, it’s just upsetting you, and that’s not fair.
Post # 8
Not a fun situation, I think you are doing good trying to include her. I know her comments are hard. Does your mom know that this is just how the Future Mother-In-Law is? That way your mom knows to take any negitive comments from Future Mother-In-Law with a grain of salt?
Post # 9
Talk to Fiance about this. He needs to stand up for you and his mother needs to know she is behaving badly.
Next time she makes a comment that is rude, ask why she would say that. And explain that you and your Mom have worked hard to put together your wedding and reception and you don’t appreciate her snide remarks.
Post # 10
I talked to my Fiance about it this morning…. he understood where I was coming from, and plans to talk to her tonight or this wkend.. the thing is I dont know that it will even make a differene. See, I live in the bible belt, not that I’m not christian, but Fiance family takes it to a whole new level.
My mom is my best friend, and her and I have been fighting lately, because her feelings are so hurt, and I understand, but my hands are tied, what am I to do? At this point I think it would have been better off to go to the courthouse.
Future Sister-In-Law doesnt talk to me, still brings the ex girlfriend of my Fiance to chrurch, and sits her down right in front of me, then they all just ignore me… ughhh
Post # 11
Oh how frustrating and annoying! I think your Fiance definately needs to step in and make it very clear to his family that ill treatment towards you will not be tolerated. Talk to your Mom too. Let her know about the troubles you have with his family and for her to try to not take anything to heart and you guys just try to be the better people and rise above it.
Post # 12
That’s really nice of you to still try to include her even though she’s being evil. I can’t say that I would still be talking to them except to just say hello and that’s it.