(Closed) Hurt Feelings (tied to Facebook, of all things!)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

hmmmm……facebook and weddings bring out the crazies in people sometimes…..and a combination of both could be lethal.

don’t take it to heart. i can understand why you feel hurt. if your friendship is worth saving, then have a heart to heart with her and tell her how you feel. if, after this talk, she continues to behave in ways that are hurtful to you, then you don’t need to have her in your life.

usually, when people do or say hurtful things, it is just a reflection of how they are feeling about their ownselves. like you said, she just broke up with her boyfriend and you just got married. unfortunately, people don’t grow and mature at the same rate. she may be unconsciously hurting your feelings to try to make herself feel better.

whatever the case, communication in any relationship is key. talk, listen and understand. know that your life is yours to live the way you want to. if your relationship with her continues to produce negative feelings, then move on. there are lots of good people in this world who care about making other people feel good, and would be willing to contribute to your life in a positive and happy manner. stick with these people. your life will be more enriching and rewarding.

good luck. don’t worry and be happy!:-D

Post # 4
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

When I first started reading this, I thought you had a frenemy situation but if you really think that she isn’t doing this on purpose, then maybe she is just oblivious. My other thought was that maybe she feels so close to you that she doesn’t have to compliment you, kind of like she thinks you should already know that you looked great, etc. I would be a little hurt as well but I don’t think this is something worth bringing up. I find that a lot of times people–even our closest friends can be entirely clueless and unintentionally inconsiderate and there’s not much we can do about it. I would just let it go and maybe take a step back from the friendship to see if anything changes. If you really want to bring it up though, I would just say jokingly, “do you think I looked ok in my pictures? You were complimenting everyone but me…”. Good luck!

Post # 5
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

YEah I think she may just be pretty oblivious. I know when I look on some people’s albums I will only comment on a few pictures … not all of them and not about every person. I think you should just let it go, it doesn’t sound like she is intentionally doing it!

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