(Closed) Hurt Feelings…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

U should use your families hard work. The fish are not a bad idea. Have your Fiance discuss the issue with the groomsman and assign a babysitter if u need to. I’m gona have to have a babysitter for one of our groomsmen because if there is a way for him to screw up something, he will.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mrkosak:  Could you use fake flowers in the vases for submerged flowers?

Those would be cheaper and you could use the vases.

I think live fish are a bad idea. What are you going to do with them after the wedding? Do you plan on keeping and caring for them all?  Because it’d be really awful to just flush them all afterwards.

Also, what would you do if a fish died during the reception, dead fish don’t really set a good mood.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

DO NOT GO WITH THE FISH.

Seriously.

When my dad owned a cake store, we used to help set up centerpieces all the time, and one of the popular ones was the fish. You would not believe how many fish died as soon as we would transfer them in to the jars. It was so sad. I cant imagine being a guest (oh, wait, I was a guest at a wedding when this occured) and the centerpiece at my table being a dead fish. Also, what will you do with the fish when you’re done? Give them away? FLUSH THEM? … now I cant stop thinking of Finding Nemo.

Could you do fruit in the vase? I dont know what your colors are, but you could totally do fake apples, oranges, pears, lemons, or limes. You could also do floating candles in colored water.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You could also try doing silk flowers in the vases. That might be cheaper and look pretty cool!

But wait- 50 tables of 8 people- you are going to have a 400 person wedding?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

There are seriously a ton of posts about why going with fish in the centerpieces are a bad idea (Nothing says love like a floating fish in the middle of the table).

I would still try to use the vases, maybe use a different flower or fruit like a pp suggested.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Please don’t do the fish. It’s a living creature not a decoration. What are you going to do with them all afterwards???

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

OK – wait, sorry. You’re having a 400-person wedding (50 tables of 8?)? Holy crap.

As to the question about the fish – don’t do it. I used to work weddings for several years, and aside from the amount of fish that die unnecessarily, they also do their business in that vase, and that’s REALLY unappetizing when you’re eating.

I would either find a different type of centerpiece that utilizes the vases you’ve collected, or try and sell them and go with the florist’s vases. I realize that your family worked hard on this, but explain what happened, apologize and if you need to reimburse those who need reimbursing.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This would be simple and elegant.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Unless you plan on taking all these fish home at the end of the night, I think it’s a horrible idea to use fish as a centerpiece.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

@mrkosak:  Can you use the vases elsehwere in the ceremony? A candy buffet ( if you’re planning one), put some tealight candles in them to line a sidewalk, aisle…something?  I know this isn’t specifically what you’re probably looking for but maybe use it as inspiration:

 

 

 

You can use diff sizes for a candy buffet, cookie buffet or if you’re not doing any of those, maybe have them at the bar area with straws, lemons, limes, olives… things to spice up your own drink:

 

I always love the mason jar/vase on the shepherds hook, but that may not be your personal style/ wedding theme:

 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Can you post pictures of the vases so we can see the size of them? I’m sure there is a way to make them work with the flowers you need within your budget.  Even if they don’t ALL have flowers in them, you can do floating candles or something else that fits with the feel you want for your wedding.

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Christie:  50 tables of 8= 400 lol!  I nearly spit out my juice when I saw your number but then I realized it was a bit off ๐Ÿ™‚

 

To the OP: I used to banquet serve weddings, several of them used Siamese Fighting Fish, they were beautiful until they were belly up.  Please don’t use fish.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Michaels has really nice looking silk flowers if budget is an issue.

While I was in M one day, I talked with a lady who went all out for her wedding and she was telling me all the horror stories of how much she overpaid for everything.

One thing she mentioned was the centerpiece flowers.  She said her vendor actually didn’t use all real flowers.  that the outside flowers were real, but on the inside to get the fullness, the flowers were fake.

 

I know it’s too late, not sure if the vases are returnable, but someone else posted about the DollarTree.com, and how you can buy in bulk and pick up in the store.

Most of the items are by the case of either 12 or 24, for a dollar each! nice vases too!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Haha not sure if any of you have ever seen My Fair Wedding, but David Tutera would have a COW if he heard you were using fish.  I second ohmybears’ idea!

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