(Closed) Hurt fiance's feelings about ring.

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Oooo tough one. 

Why’d he go and buy a ring when you’d both decided you were going to go with Blue Nile? 

You might have bruised his ego but he’ll get over it. Perhaps go on Blue Nile together and help each other find something you both like. 

Hopefully he can return the ring! 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Fuck no. He needs to swallow his pride and send that bad boy back!! I could not stand getting a crap deal like that

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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decemberbee:  I think Blue Nile have a great return policy as well? 

Perhaps tell him that as well – if he doesn’t like it, you can send it back. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

I get it – mine was the same but we went to a jeweller we liked, he then trusted them enough to send through the specs once he was a bit closer to purchase. If he didn’t like it, they’d change it no questions asked, no more money outlay (unless he chose a more expensive diamond). 

Feel bad but you’ll get over it, and so will he. 

My hubby bought A CAR while I was interstate. It’s four years later and I still give him flack for it! ๐Ÿ˜‰ It’s one of those things, I felt bad for making him feel bad, he felt bad for not listening to me (since I had a friend that worked with a dealership) but now we just find it funny. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I just bought a new wedding band from Blue Nile a few weeks ago and it is stunning. It was half the cost of what it would have been from Birks (where my e-ring is from). I think he should feel very secure ordering from them. If you can get a higher clarity diamond for the same price, why wouldn’t he want that?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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decemberbee:  Don’t let his fear of online shopping force you into settling for an included ring you don’t like! Particularlly if he hasn’t done any research on his own!!!

Acknowledge his feelings but def return that Kay ring and get a ring from BN. I literally have never seen anything but crazy beautiful rings form there and I too HATE knowing I got ripped off (even when I like the item and you don’t in this case)

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Let him know it isn’t that the thoughtfullness isn’t wonderful, but he got ripped off. 

How would he feel if you spent thousands more than you should have on a car or other major purchase? 

Be kind but firm that you would much rather not have to look at something every day that reminds you of how he was hosed. Having the extra money to throw away is fine, and in his mind might show he’s capable of supporting you or something, yes, the ring needs to be brought back. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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decemberbee:  I suggest the return and going to blue Nile. My original ring was from Kay .. Center Leo diamond still is. But it makes me sick the price that was spent on it.. And I had to have my ring reset into a new setting because the quality of my original setting was AWFUL the diamonds did  not sparkle the way they should and it was so yellow (White gold ring). I tried to work with Kay as we had for a while but they wouldn’t even Talk to me about a reset for the junky setting.. Only started talking to me when we put a 10k ring on my Finger. Sooo we went elsewhere. I highly suggest going somewhere else, the price is the worst part and you want a high quality diamond to have forever! 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

He needs to stop taking it personally. The ring is the problem, not him. It’s a mistake to go with an I1 stone. There very well may be integrity issues down the road. Trust me, you’ll have to tackle uncomfortable subjects when you’re married so you might as well begin now.

Post # 13
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Worker bee

I would find a similar diamond on bluenile and show him the price on the website vs what he paid in store. But obviously be sweet about it Lol… It’s your future too! If he’s overspending a lot of money on the ring, that’s less money toward wedding, house down payment, etc.  Jewelry stores work on commission! Car salesmen get bad reps, but those people are ones to be wary of too! I work in sales and do very well and was appauled by the jewelry reps when we’d go into stores to check out colors/Clarities.  There’s HUGE markup in diamonds at the stores, some places would knock off up to 8k as we were leaving, yet they still couldn’t touch bluenlies prices even with those discounts.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Have you considered sites like James Allen, Zoara, or Ritani? JA only sells diamonds with pics, and the other two have pics for some of their stones, if the issue is that he wants to see it. I would not be down for the Kay’s ring either. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

I am 100% positive he’s purchased items online from amazon or ebay.  His fears about shopping for an online diamond have no merit [even though HE has all the merit in the world lol because you know.. you love him :)].  Especially if there is a great return policy and it’s a reputable company [as blue nile is of course].

However, someone needs to wear the pants and take charge.  Otherwise you’re going to end up with an overpriced ring you don’t want and less money in the bank.

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