(Closed) Hurt, insulted, and downright pissed! (rant)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

They’re not friends, they are casual acquaintances. I wouldn’t have them on a guest list.

Post # 4
3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Awww, I’m sorry.  You’re right…they’re not treating you like friends.  Maybe time to look into new ways to socialize in your town?  Time to find some friends with similar lifestyles who are willing to treat you with the respect you deserve!

Post # 5
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Facebook friends are not the same as friends you see often, hang out with, call all the time… they are casual acquaintances at best.

Post # 7
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yep, they aren’t friends.  I’m sorry you’ve found out this way!

Post # 8
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sucks but things like this happen after high school. I have a few “friends” like this who I thought we were close friends and then turns out we weren’t as closed as I thought we were. I say just move on, I know it’s hard since you feel like there was a good friendship there they’re not being good friends at all.

Post # 11
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

If you don’t see them, they likely don’t consider you to be “present” for them. 

Since you’ve gotten feedback on your position in their lives, why not embrace the people that choose to have you nearby? Those are TRUE friends.

Post # 12
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

First off (( HUGS )) because obviously this is painful and confusing for you.

One of the hardest things to realize when we head out on the road as Adults… is High School is not real life (for that matter, neither is College or University)

By the time you are my age (50+) and look back in reality there will be only a few friends (IF ANY) from that period of your life that still exist

It is what it is, we grow older, wiser and apart…. life changes us.

From your descriptions I wouldn’t count any of these girls as GFs, they are just acquaintances from your past life.

You will meet literally millions of people in your lifetime… in the long run these past girls won’t matter

Go cultivate some more mature relationships (you’ll know they are mature, because they’ll care for you at least as much as you care for them… and after a long time apart, when you get back together, it’ll feel that there was little or no time gap)

Hope this helps,

PS… Facebook IMO is superficial… not real life either.  Real emotions happen face to face, not interface to interface.


Post # 13
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

If someone turns her nose up at you, she’s not your friend.  That gets rid of door number one.

If someone does not share the important details of her life, she’s definitely not a good friend.  If you’re not even close enough to see facebook updates about her being engaged and pregnant, she’s not your good friend, or she’s super private.   I wouldn’t invite “friends” two and three either.


Keeping in touch via Facebook does not always equal real friendships.  I decided long ago that I was not going to put more of myself into a friendship than my friends did.  It wasn’t worth it.  I’ve lived a much happier life since.

Post # 14
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@TheSpoons:  I have Facebook friends who live in different countries and we keep each other in the loop. I don’t find out about engagements and pregnancies on Facebook, we take the time to contact each other personally. 

Post # 15
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It always sucks to find out that you weren’t as important to someone as they were to you and I’m sorry you’re feeling hurt right now.  A lot of times people just move on as their lives change and it can be hard for a lot of people to feel close to someone when they haven’t actually seen them in a long time and live far away.  Try to brush yourself off and focus on your friends whom you’re able to keep in closer contact with!

Post # 16
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@TheSpoons:  If you only keep in touch via Facebook, that is very different than maintaining a real life relationship. I don’t think it was intended to hurt you.

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