(Closed) Hurtful comments while TTC

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 31
471 posts
Helper bee

“Kindly fuck yourself” is my go-to response to the questions or comments of this sort.  If the busybody comes back after that, add “… with a rusty chainsaw”.

Post # 32
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

wontonsoup :  i get this too, but not half as rude as the comments you are getting!  people who get pregnant easily simply do not realize that it takes some people longer.  we aren’t telling many people we are TTC either and the more these comments pressuring us to have a baby keep coming, the closer i am to snapping with “WE CAN’T ALL GET KNOCKED UP AS EASILY AS SOME PEOPLE” to shut them up, but honestly, i just don’t want these people knowing our business.  it would be worse if every ten seconds they were asking, “are you pregnant yet?”  

Post # 33
881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

wontonsoup :  I am so sorry you have to deal with all these rude insenstive comments. I cant believe people tell you are selfish not to want kids. I know you do want kids , but some popele dont and that does not make them selfish. Also What a stupid thing to say!! Ugh seething as I read your post!! Also it doesnt sound like you ever said that you didnt want kids so I dont know what those peoples issues are.  I think people just dont think or maybe they think they are just making conversation. I have had to deal with comments simular to yours. I like you just bit my tongue and say “someday” as I hold back my tears. I wish I had some advice about how to deal with these rude comments but I am in the same boat as you!!! Hoping others on here has some good advice. Good luck TTC. Baby dust!!!

Post # 35
4065 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Your Brother-In-Law sounds like a total asshole. 

Post # 36
3860 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’ve been trying over two years and have gotten our fair share of insensitive comments. I pretty much always have a borderline snark response (I.e. As soon as my husband’s sperms starts working from his surgery; Well it’s not for a lack of trying). I have also gone the route of rambling on about our infertility (I.e. Oh I know… It’s so rough having fertility problems! At our last appointment DH’s sperm count was up but his motility was still low so we are making another appointment to discuss further options. I hope we can afford it and that we will have our little one soon! Thanks for your concern!!). It actually appears to come across as genuine and they usually let their mouth fall open and then apologize that they “didn’t know.”


The worst is when people give advice. Even after I explained our fertility issues to a coworker she said, “you know, if you figure out when you ovulate and start trying like 7 days before that every day or every other day it will probably work!” Ummmmm ok yeah thanks…. Got it. I was speechless for that one.

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