- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
Tell your SO that you don’t want to get into political discussions with the Trump supporter friend. Maybe if he knows this he could work on changing the subject if the friend brings it up. If he doesn’t know this, then maybe he thinks that you enjoy the debate. I know my DH likes to debate politics, and does frequently, so I’d never think to jump in and “defend” him, even if he was debating with one of my friends.
My husband and I agree on many issues, particularly the ones that I deem to be more important, but we do disagree on some things. I don’t like debating, so we don’t usually talk about those issues. Note that these are issues that don’t necessarily speak to someone’s moral character. I couldn’t be with someone who was anti-choice with regard to abortion, but I can deal with someone who has some different ideas on fiscal policy, for example.
I don’t think it’s ok to call you a bitch, but you did insult him first (it’s implied that being a Trump supporter is an insult in this case), even if you didn’t use a swear word. Unless he regularly calls you names, I don’t really see that as a red flag. I do think it’s problematic that he never apologises for anything, as you’ve implied. Taking ownership for your actions is important, he needs to understand that he’s not always right and that he needs to apologise when he’s hurt your feelings, even if he is right in that situation.