(Closed) Hurts during sex!…. Possibly TMI! :

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I don’t really have much advice, but as someone who frequently gets UTIs from a medical condition, I will say that I have never had a problem with sex hurting after. (This is purely based on my personal experience though.) I know everyone is different, but I’ve never heard that as a side effect before. Maybe see another doctor for a second opinion?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve had sex hurt after a UTI, but mostly minor discomfort, not insane pain. And it generally goes a way after a couple times. Although, I’ve never thought about this, but because of complications with birth control, we use condoms. Maybe that contributes to it getting better faster? Hmmm…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

I think it starts off as an actual physical problem, like your UTI, that then becomes psychological. Definitely happens to me — I anticipate pain, therefore I’m not relaxed, and that just makes it worse. 

I sound sleazy, but have you tried drinking alcohol? And in the mean time, keep doing “other” stuff, because that stuff can relax you too. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My sister had something really random with sex after she had her first baby.  I think it was some kind of nerve issue, it took a long time for them to figure out what it is exactly.  Your gyno should be willing to continuiously work with you on what the cause could be.  I have a low level of testosterone (from taking BC pills), so I don’t have much of a libido or lubrication (that’s just from the BC pills too, but not the testosterone issue).  My doctor perscribed me a testosterone cream to help with the libido and an estrogen cream to help my vagina be more elastic and lubricate easier so sex isn’t painful.  We also use lubrication to make sure we can go the whole time without increased friction.

If your doctor won’t work with you to make your sexual health in perfect condition, you should seek a second opinion.  It’s very important in a relationship to have a healty sex life, and it should be important to your doctor as well.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hmm, well part of me thinks it could be a psychological issue (if I anticipate pain, then sometimes my brain makes it become true). In this case maybe you are thinking about it, which is making you tense.

My other suggestion would be to get a second opinion. I used to get UTI’s all the time and couldn’t have sex for while afterwards, you could try giving it a bit more time and just making sure you are thoroughly “warmed up” before you get to the main event

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Are you dry and that’s what’s causing the pain or are lubicated and still have pain?  When I use to have tons of UTI, I was afraid of having sex causing me to be dry all the time but I never had pain. It’s it the later, you should probably see another GP and get a second opinion.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

This happened to me. It seemed to come out of no where. I hadn’t had a UTI or yeast infection or anything. I had sex and it hurt like a bitch! Then, like 2 months later I had sex again and everything was normal. Apparently something had happened and I just needed time to heal. Dedicate a few weeks to abstaining and try again. Maybe your body just needs to heal from something?

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

This might be Too Much Information but if it helps it worth it….I was diagnosed with Vaginismus after having a biopsy due to a abnormal pap. (luckily it came back fine) It can also be caused by UTI or Yeast infections.. After the biopsy i had such a hard time with intercourse, i could not relax enough to let anything enter my body, tampons even hurt! It became such an issue that i would stress about it and didnt help at all. it took 3 times at the gyno before they told me what was happening. if this sounds anything like your problem PM me and ill give you some tips on how to make it go away. It sucks to be a girl and have a sexual disfunction! haha but i with some help from the Fiance and some serious trying on my part  i have been free of pain for months.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Use lots of lube, urinate after vaginal and/or oral sex. Drink lots of water, unsweetened cranberry juice and try to hold in urine too long and let your body heal from the UTI before having sex. Also know that you can seek out a second opinion from another doctor, too.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have interstitial cystitis which is often misdiagnosed as a UTI. It causes frequent urination and pain during intercourse. The frequent urination didn’t really bother me (I just figured that all women peed a lot! Like, um, 20+ times a day?), but the pain during sex drove me to the doctor. It took about 9 months for me to get a diagnosis. 

Not saying you have this, but in my experience, it helps to try and figure out where the pain is coming from. Just saying “it hurts” didn’t really get me anywhere, but when I could finally describe exactly where it hurts, I got a diagnosis. Try and figure out where it hurts if you can. Deep inside? Outside? Any possible behavioral changes that make it better or worse? 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I’m really sorry that this is happening.

I’ve had a lot of inflammation down there due to hormone problems, and I tend to be very sensitive in general.  A lube that’s really worked for us is Pre.  Pre is less likely to cause irritation, and in a personal lubricant study, it was the only lube that did not cause cervical inflammation.  It’s a bit more expensive than a regular lube, but it’s not damaging or irritating.

Also, did your doctor check your urine recently to be sure you don’t have a residual infection or another UTI?  I agree with the previous post regarding Interstitial Nephritis, but I’d first want to be sure it’s not another UTI or that the last UTI never completely went away for whatever reason.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ask for a referral to a gynecologist. We are so lucky to have free health care in Canada . A doctor should be your source for medical advice.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It does sound like vaginismus a bit… unfortunately it’s hard to get it diagnosed. But if that’s what it is, it’s very fixable. Google “vaginismus” and you’ll find tons of good info!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Your GP should NOT be dismissing intense pain during sex like this. That makes me really angry.  It is not normal for it to hurt that intensely, nor for that to persist for so long.

You should absolutely see a gynecologist and get a full exam. Ask around to find one who has a reputation for being kind as well as skilled, someone who will take your pain seriously.

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