wifeconflicted : OP, I’m glad to see you’re getting angry, but you’re misdirecting that anger. Direct it all, 100%, at your husband, okay?
That “fucking bitch” thinks she’s going to dinner with your husband because they’re having an affair. Plain and simple. Because you have not set your foot down regarding conversations they have at work, so for all you know, Darling Husband and Jen planned to get together to do a ton of stuff, but has since been squashed by your not being okay with their relationship anymore.
Jen called him crying is because she is not getting the attention from him that she is used to. So she’s doing and saying whatever she needs to do to get your hubsand’s attention again. That was the perfect opporunity for your husband to tell her she’s being wildly inappropriate. If one of DH’s co-workers called him hysterical like that, he’d be incredibly uncomfortable. As it was, I posed a hypothetical question to him. He has a female co-worker that he is friendly with. So I asked what he would do if she called him like Jen called your husband. His reaction? o_0 “Why would she do that? That’s so inappropriate.” <—Bingo.
That, if anything, Bee, is confirmation that something has been going on. Darling Husband stopped giving Jen the attention she is used to, so she is going to do and say anything to get him to pay attention to her. And look at that! It worked! He immediately went and picked her up! Just like she wanted! Why is it your husband that has to comfort her? He should have directed it towards her own spouse and turned off his phone. He acts as if every text she sends needs to be answered. He is more concerned with being “humane” with Jen than a good hubsand to you. Fuck that noise.
Bee, you have a long, long life ahead of yourself. Why do you want to spend it spoonfeeding your Darling Husband responses to this woman? I never need a play-by-play of my husband’s day, nor do I need to feed him responses to text messages. What a miserable, miserable life that it.
You seem to be looking at the summer as the finish line. I get that. You’re fucking exhausted with this. Your husband has made this a miserable, miserable last few weeks and these three months where he isn’t going to see or speak to Jen feel like the end of the line. But it’s not. I’m sorry, Bee, but it’s just not. School will restart again, but more importantly, I worry how your husband is going to treat you these three months. As I said, I see many, many resentful moments, passive-aggressive comments, and snark because “Oh, well, I would take our daughter to the zoo, but what if Jen is there? I don’t want to upset you! So looks like we can’t go to the zoo or the beach anymore so I don’t make you upset!” And like I said, the school year will resume. Jen will be there again. And this is going to start all over again.