Post # 1
I am in need of some advice. I’ve been married to my husband for 10 years. We have a good relationship, normal ups and downs. This week has been a hard one for us. He lost his job of 10 years and we’ve been dealing with that. He has been suffering from depression because of the loss of his job. My problem is this…
He was on the phone today talking to a family friend and he said, “let me pass the phone back to Laurie”….I’m not Laurie. I am Lindsay. See my problem? Laurie was his ex wife. He has not spoken to her in forever. Why would he call me her name? He has never done so before! I am hurt and angry and my thoughts are racing. I can’t think straight because of all the stress that this week has brought us. Can you ladies shed some light?
I left the house to clear my head so I’m sitting at the beach…
This topic was modified 5 years, 6 months ago by LindsayW.
Post # 2
Brain fart! Seriously, maybe in his stressed out, upset state he reverted back to his mindset when they were together 😛
Post # 3
His mind is busy with other things and your names are close enough sounding to where I wouldn’t make a big deal about it. It’s a simple mistake.
Post # 4
You are over thinking it. Easy mistake. We are all human. It didn’t mean anything
Post # 5
Agree completely with pp. He’s beyond stressed, this isn’t a regular occurrence, honestly I’m not sure why this has upset you so much. Maybe because you are stressed too and extra sensitive? I know when SO and I are both under stress we tend to take things the wrong way a lot more and react more severely. It was an honest mistake and you have similar names.
Post # 6
I think it was a mistake, but ewith all the stress you have going on, I can see how it would really get under your skin. Enjoy the beach, stop somewhere and have a drink, and relax. Then go home to him and hug him for too long, and tell him you love him and that no matter how hard everything is right now, you’re going to get through it together.
It’s not something to add to your list of problems.
Post # 7
So not a big deal. Your names even start with the same letter.
We have both called each other by our ex’s names.
It’s not worth dwelling on. Laugh about it.
Post # 8
I do stuff like this allllllll day long. I don’t actually say the names but it’s a tightrope:-) It means nothing except that I’m distracted and thinking about something else.
I would keep an eye on his depression though, losing work is so tough. I hope things get better. Pull together right now, you need to be strong for each other.
Post # 9
I agree with prior posters. This means nothing other than he is stressed out and not thinking clearly. My DH did this once during our six-year marriage, and my friend’s DH did this once as well. I highly doubt that there was any more to it than that.
Post # 10
My own mother calls all of us kids by the wrong name constantly. She’s even confused my name with the dog who has been dead for over 20 years. Slip ups happen. Unless it’s a pattern or you have other suspicions he’s not over his ex, I’d let it go
Post # 11
Calling my SO by my ex’s name is a big fear of mine b/c sometimes I think the wrong name in my mind. I have no feelings for my ex but its like it just slips out. Don’t you have a grandma who calls you Ann, Mary, Suzy, Patsy? Before the right name stumbles out? Its like that, relax, he’s just stressed.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2014 - Church and University
All of the above. Lord knows I’ve done it….
Post # 13
Another one for please don’t stress over this. These kind of slip ups happen and it has no significance to your relationship whatsoever.
Post # 14
Yup. “Guyzheimers” as my husband calls it…
Post # 15
I’d laugh this off. But I too have a mother who often has tried calling me all of my siblings’ names and one of the cats’ names before hitting mine…and I’m the oldest so you think she would get it right!
He sound stressed and distracted. It happens.