(Closed) Husband called me by his exes name… We've been married 10years!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
4235 posts
Honey bee

Brain fart! Seriously, maybe in his stressed out, upset state he reverted back to his mindset when they were together 😛

Post # 3
2087 posts
Buzzing bee

His mind is busy with other things and your names are close enough sounding to where I wouldn’t make a big deal about it. It’s a simple mistake. 

Post # 4
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You are over thinking it. Easy mistake. We are all human. It didn’t mean anything 

Post # 5
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Agree completely with pp. He’s beyond stressed, this isn’t a regular occurrence, honestly I’m not sure why this has upset you so much. Maybe because you are stressed too and extra sensitive? I know when SO and I are both under stress we tend to take things the wrong way a lot more and react more severely. It was an honest mistake and you have similar names.

Post # 6
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think it was a mistake, but ewith all the stress you have going on, I can see how it would really get under your skin. Enjoy the beach, stop somewhere and have a drink, and relax. Then go home to him and hug him for too long, and tell him you love him and that no matter how hard everything is right now, you’re going to get through it together. 

It’s not something to add to your list of problems. 

Post # 7
47430 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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LindsayW:  So not a big deal. Your names even start with the same letter.

We have both called each other by our ex’s names.

It’s not worth dwelling on. Laugh about it.

Post # 8
11375 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I do stuff like this allllllll day long. I don’t actually say the names but it’s a tightrope:-) It means nothing except that I’m distracted and thinking about something else.

I would keep an eye on his depression though, losing work is so tough. I hope things get better. Pull together right now, you need to be strong for each other. 

Post # 9
11532 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with prior posters. This means nothing other than he is stressed out and not thinking clearly. My DH did this once during our six-year marriage, and my friend’s DH did this once as well. I highly doubt that there was any more to it than that.

Post # 10
1624 posts
Bumble bee

My own mother calls all of us kids by the wrong name constantly. She’s even confused my name with the dog who has been dead for over 20 years. Slip ups happen. Unless it’s a pattern or you have other suspicions he’s not over his ex, I’d let it go

Post # 11
2214 posts
Buzzing bee

Calling my SO by my ex’s name is a big fear of mine b/c sometimes I think the wrong name in my mind.  I have no feelings for my ex but its like it just slips out.  Don’t you have a grandma who calls you Ann, Mary, Suzy, Patsy?  Before the right name stumbles out?  Its like that, relax, he’s just stressed.

Post # 12
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Church and University

All of the above.  Lord knows I’ve done it….

Post # 13
1839 posts
Buzzing bee

Another one for please don’t stress over this. These kind of slip ups happen and it has no significance to your relationship whatsoever. 

Post # 14
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yup. “Guyzheimers” as my husband calls it…

Post # 15
5148 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I’d laugh this off. But I too have a mother who often has tried calling me all of my siblings’ names and one of the cats’ names before hitting mine…and I’m the oldest so you think she would get it right!

He sound stressed and distracted. It happens.

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