Husband called me by someone else's name during sex…

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Bumble bee

As a PP mentioned there is a well known porn star called Tori Black, who is very popular, so he may actually be telling the truth… 

Post # 33
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Sugar Beekeeper

When your husband’s best EXCUSE is that he’s thinking of a porn star instead of you, then you have big problems. 

Post # 34
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Helper bee

I’d be livid, won’t even lie I’d be so angry and hurt. The man you are dedicating your life to shouts out another woman’s name during the most intimate time?!…errrrrrrm no way!! While his story of Tori may be correct HOWEVER I’d grill him to a crisp until you are satisfied.

I’ve been with my partner for 3 yesrs and he’s called me his ex-wife’s name on the very rare occasion and each time he apologises, explains why and goes out his way to make it up to me. Maybe it’s time to talk to him

Post # 35
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Helper bee

I am one of the WORST people with Names I call my SO my brothers name, I call my sister my mums name, I call my dad my SO’s name. I just MIX UP everything. (no i don’t call my parents mum & dad)

MOST of the time I catch myself before they notice, othertimes I just wear it. 

 

I know if it’s never happened before it could have been a shock, BUT if you have no previous suspicions about cheating, I wouldn’t jump straight to that, theres a long road between a moan of names to actively cheating on someone you’re married to.

Talk to him, You’ll know when your husband is being off, scetchy or wierd. IF there was prior suspicions then I would look more into it before a conversation with him.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

I’m sorry this happened bee, I would feel awful too. I think this warrants you snooping through all his emails and fb account and phone bill etc to find any evidence of cheating. I don’t know your husband obvs but I think he’s going to try stick by his porn star story. It could be true, it might be not. xo

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Jeez, to be honest, even if the porn star thing was true, I would probably be gone. Like, if you’re that bored with your relationship that you’re thinking of someone else while having sex with your wife, that’s cheating enough for me.

But in your case, I think the coincidence of the woman named Victoria is too big to ignore, and you should probably go back home and hash it all out to decide what you’re going to do.

Post # 38
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Busy bee

Saying the wrong name once might be just an oops. The porn star explanation however isn’t believable to me and tht is what makes me suspect something fishy might be going on.

Post # 39
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Helper bee

Hmm … I think it’s totally suspicious, particularly because of the Facebook friend thing. I’d be asking him who she is, seeing as there are no other mutal friends. I’d also be checking the internet history on your computer (if you have a desktop) and seeing if he’d ever looked at anything to do with a porn star called Tori prior to him saying that name in bed!

Separate story … I once deliberately shouted out the wrong name while having sex with a boyfriend in college because I thought it would be funny. To be fair, he did laugh.

Post # 40
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Helper bee

Is there an update? 

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

Holy shit. I’m so sorry.

What else did he say? Is he planning to make a new life with her? What do you plan to do? His shit would be on fire right now, if this were me. 

Post # 43
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Bumble bee

OMG!!!! What a terrible twist to the story!  Did he express any remorse?  Is he saying he wants to work it out?  Does she know about you?  Ugh bee I’m so sorry!  He’s a total douche!

Post # 44
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Worker bee

Oh no! I’m so sorry. Is he still at your house? What did he say? Is he interested in fixing the relationship; are you? I would call your family member up and get them to come pick you up. Vent to them and keep your mind distracted today. You can figure out the details another day. 

Post # 45
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Blushing bee

Oh my goodness. I am literally crying at my work desk right now for you. I am so so so sorry. 

Throw his ass out right now. I am against all physical voilence but I’m not sure how I wouldn’t have punched him in the face when those words came out of his mouth. 

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