Husband clicks away when I enter room

posted 3 months ago in Married Life
Post # 61
1155 posts
Bumble bee

OP – there may be something there, there may not be. You stated you always jump to the worst case scenario, and that you had been cheated on before. Your past history is going to play some bearing on this and may make you more sensitive. I think I’d try to figure out first if there are other trust issues with your husband that have a bearing on this, or if it’s concern stemming from your history.

I personally wouldn’t be overly suspicious. I am in the habit of minimizing my sceens ofter – when I was in high school I didn’t want my parents to see, and now that I’m self-employed I’m not “stealing company time”, but I don’t need my assistant to see my online shopping or WB.

I am not frequently on my laptop at home, but definitely remember looking at diamonds before we had officially decided to get engaged and minimizing those screens. I did get caught out though – he started getting pop up ads for Blue Nile and Brilliant Earth!

Your spidey senses might be going off. There was one time where my partner really blatantly hid the phone screen from me. I’m used to the phone screen not being hidden. It definitely made my stomach lurch a little. Turned out he had ordered a custom cake for my birthday and the baker had texted to clarify details. That being said the dramatic phone turn was a one off.

I would start by talking. You’re in a difficult position if you’re pregnant. I empathize with you.

Post # 62
13548 posts
Honey Beekeeper

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@aeroforceone:  OP specifically said this behavior related to his personal computer, not his work computer. It doesn’t really matter though since she seems to have no intention of replying. 

Post # 63
535 posts
Busy bee

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@weddingmaven:  That’s a good point I missed. But still, I disagee with snooping on your spouse. OP never even asked him about it, no need to snoop just simply ask. And I agree she is not coming back so moot point!

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