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posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You react by reporting him to the police. 

That is someone’s child.

Post # 4
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

He clearly needs to seek counselling. This exact thing came up last night on LoveLine with Dr Drew (I listen when I’m getting ready for bed). His advice was to seek counselling immediately. There’s might be some kind of past trauma that’s causing this. It was really brave of your Darling Husband to tell you this, he obviously wants to stop this behaviour and have a healthier sexual fantasy.

Post # 5
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1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MrsLulu: Agree with you 100%

How do you know he wont do this with your future children?

Post # 6
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1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@bakerella: Exactly this. Good luck, OP!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Woow, touchy subject.

Did he quit? is he trying to quit? is he looking for help?

This is a very delicate situation and he needs to stop, maybe look for help but it just can’t be an on and off thing.

Post # 8
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416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wow, thats a hard pill to swallow, but at the end of the you have to think of your future with him. The question is could you ever trust him again being around children or alone on the computer? Something like this is going to eat both of you guys up. The best advise is to be honest with yourself, this is not something that is gonna go away and if something happen to a child how would you feel? Dont let you love for the ” straight, clean guy” get in the way of reality, because at the end of the day those kids are someone innocent jeweles.

 

Wish you luck

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m sorry but I agree with other bees. It’s a touchy subject BUT… it’s illegal and someone’s kid. He needs counseling. I really don’t think there’s much you can do to help him, he needs to see a professional. 

Post # 10
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730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow. Counseling. Right away. I don’t think I’d call the police, but I’d definitely take the computer away. And I’d definitely think long and hard before even considering having children with him.

Post # 11
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I just wanted to say I am sorry this is happening. Life sometimes likes to test us. I dont know what I would do in your situation, so I just wanted to let you know that we all go through tough times, and to remember that it will get better.

Post # 12
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Think of it this way, if somehow the child pornography was traced to the computer in your home…how would they know which of you is viewing it? 

Post # 13
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

@Mrs_Secret: I think that your husband needs to talk to a therapist about this. Eventually he will be caught, as law enforcement has a way of tracing that stuff. Once he is caught, he will go to jail and be labled a sex offender for the rest of his life. He needs to get help, it’s not okay in any way of what he is doing. Please, tell him that he needs to get help.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

@Mrs_Secret:That means he is sexually turned on by children, it is sick and it is illegal. Sorry, he has a BIG problem. Also, saying he does not see children sexually in real life is an excuse. If you are sexually attracted to children you have a mental problem. Period. End of story. Its NOT ok.[comment removed]

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

He absolutely needs counseling immediately.  I would also not have children with this man unless and until the counselor can guarantee he is not a danger to them.  Maybe not even then.  He should also not be allowed to be alone with children unless and until the counselor can guarantee he is not a danger to them.  Maybe not even then.  

Very scary, and I am sorry you are having to deal with this.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Soladylike: Your reply was rude and totally disgusting. She came here for support and ideas of how to deal, NOT to be snapped at! What he is doing may be disgusting, but she is not him.  It was flagged.

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