Husband doesnt hear me or has selective hearing

posted 1 year ago in Married Life
Post # 16
5175 posts
Bee Keeper

When you say he has an addictive personality, has he ever had a problem with any pain medication? Because overuse can lead to hearing loss. A lot of what you’re describing sounds like a hearing impairment to me.

Post # 17
1006 posts
Bumble bee

When you ask him to repeat things back to you, how accurate is he, OP? Does he seem to comprehend what you’ve said?

Post # 18
536 posts
Busy bee

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lalagig :  I’d look up phone numbers for your doctor and for a marriage counselor. Let him pick which one to start with; it’s either a physical problem or you guys need to talk to a head doc to get his listening sorted.

I wonder if he’s only started this since you had your child?

Post # 19
1811 posts
Buzzing bee

Does he do this with other people as well or only you?

Regaedless, he should get checked out to rule out any

medical issues.

Post # 20
1567 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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lalagig :  How does he treat you otherwise? Previous posters might be right, he might have a medical issue, but he could also just not care too much about what you have to say. It’s possible he doesn’t much respect you or your opinions and that’s why he tunes you out, maybe he just doesn’t care about what you’re saying. And he might be kind of a shitty dad, too — why are you the one telling him to feed the baby? Does he not take responsibility for stuff himself?

It should be pretty clear from other behaviours which is which, do you feel respected in general? Do you feel he’s a good partner and parent? If not, have you discussed that with him? Sure maybe there’s a medical component, that’s worth exploring (start with a hearing test… kind of can’t believe you haven’t done this yet). Maybe there are relationship problems. Whatever the cause one thing is clear: you’re fed up and I don’t blame you! What you’re describing is not okay and can’t continue. Good luck!

Post # 21
344 posts
Helper bee

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lalagig :  I don’t mean to alarm you but the whole tuning out, staring into space, forgetfulness and inability to concentrate are also symptoms of schizophrenia.

Post # 22
2077 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Make an appt with an audiologist ASAP! sounds like a hearing problem, but could be something neurological and they can refer if they don’t see anything.

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