(Closed) Husband doesn't think I can take the pain of childbirth

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 46
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Blushing bee

beean0nym0us:  You will cope with birth! Mostly cause you have no choice. Tell your husband its called labour for a reason. Tell him you might not be able to handle the pain of child birth, by the time its all over he will be too busy playing with baby to talk about it haha

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

truthah:  Honestly, you wouldn’t think about the cost. The only reason I know how much it costs is because I worked on health care reform and my husband actually reads insurance documents carefully. Most people never even think about it. 

For example, I had a D&C in March. Most D&Cs aren’t done under anesthesia because they are outpatient proceedures in a doctor’s office. I had mine done in a hospital with anesthesia and it cost easily 4 times what it would cost at a doctor’s office. I never considered the cost difference until my husband asked why abortions were so much cheaper than my D&C (same proceedure). (In fairness, my doctor only did D&Cs in Labor and Delivery at the hospital. I didn’t have a choice without going to another provider).

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

beean0nym0us:  I don’t think he’s taking into account the amount of adrenaline and other hormones that will be pumping through your system during labor. It’s a different experience than stubbing your toe or getting a leg cramp.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My advice is dont worry what he thinks!!  I know you want to prove how strong you are to him, but trust me when he watches your baby being born with or without drugs he will know JUST how strong you really are.  I had fentanyl to take the edge off and I dont think anyone faulted me or thought that I was weak because I took pain meds.  Dont be a hero!  The goal is to have a happy healthy baby.  No one gives medals out for how much pain you went through in order to get your little one!

Post # 50
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Busy bee

beean0nym0us:  First, I would tell him to keep those opinions to himself and that they are not helpful in any way. Then, I would take those comments exactly as you said…as motivation to push yourself. I always do better at things when people have told me I can’t do something as I try harder.

Then let me tell you this so you MIGHT feel a little better about him being so concerned about how painful child birth can be. My SO likes to talk about labor and delivery like it can’t possibly be as bad as some people say it is. He thinks that people wouldn’t have so many children if it was REALLY that bad so it must not be. It’s completely infuriating to hear him say things like that and I’m not even pregnant hahaha.

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Congrats! That’s amazing ๐Ÿ™‚ well done bee!!

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That’s awesome!! I’m so glad you came back for an update and that he got on board with you. I’m sure his support really helped ๐Ÿ™‚ 

 

and bravo on rocking the med free birth like you wanted!

Post # 55
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

Congratultions!!!  You rocked it!!  I am so glad he could support you like you needed.  Enjoy your new baby!!

Post # 56
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

beean0nym0us:  Awesome, I love it. I so hope you will use this to lord over your husband for the rest of your life. “Remember that time you didn’t think I could handle the pain of childbirth and I totally did? That’s right bitch get me a cookie.” Ok maybe not quite that far…

Post # 57
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Thanks for the update. 

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Congratulations and well done

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Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Thank you for the update. So inspiring and encouraging to hear. Well done!

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

beean0nym0us:  Congratulations!!!! Well done you! I had an unmedicated birth 9 months ago. Leg cramps are the worst pain in the world, not even close to labour pains. Leg cramps hurt like hell and last, contractions hurt more like diarrhoea cramps and then totally disappear with a clear break in between. Not to mention labour pain is a good pain, leg cramps indicate muscle damage. No comparison ๐Ÿ™‚

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