(Closed) Husband doesn't want to be in the delivery room?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 122
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

how rude and immature! He doesn’t have to look down there – quite frankly I don’t want anyone’s head in my crotch at that moment except the nurse/doctor.  

Post # 123
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

There will not be an option. Not that I would need to even argue it. My Darling Husband would NEVER miss the birth of his child. We aren’t pregnant yet, but have been trying for 8 cycles….

Post # 124
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Nellop:  I will agree with you on that if they can’t deal with medical situations (some people really can’t) then that doesn’t make them a horrible husband. However, if you don’t want to be there because it will ruin your sex life – COME ON!  THat’s just ridiculous!

Honestly though, anyone that’s not cool around needles, etc. can just not watch that stuff happen!  I’m super icky about all medical things and almost pass out just in their presence, but I made it through my sister’s birth without seeing any of that or passing out.  However, I did puke on the way home after I accidently caught a glimpse of placenta – was not expecting that whatsoever!  However, I did mention to make it out of the hospital before I was sick!

Post # 125
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2023

Honestly, I would rather a man be honest and say ‘yeah, that might ruin sex, so I’d rather not’, than to grin and bear it as something he apparently should do. What if he goes in, he’s sees it all, and afterwards isn’t wanting sex? That would have a massive effect on him, me and our relationship – moreso than him being honest at the start.

I’m willing to bet it would be the same people coming on to have a massive go at a man who afterwards didn’t want to have sex – and think he should just ‘suck it up and be a man’- but who stayed in the delivery room.

It’s not just the part where he physically sees the head coming out, or his lady friend pooing or whatever. For some men it’s just being there in that environment that can cause issues with post-childbirth sex.

Post # 126
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Didn’t read the comments, but I would be really really upset if Darling Husband had decided not to be in the room with me (of his own choosing). I NEEDED him to be there with me, he was my anchor. And FWIW, he had a front-row seat to all the action and 6 months pp our sex life has never been better. 

Post # 127
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I asked my Fiance this and he said “of course I’ll be there!”  He wants to see everything and when I asked him if he thought he would be “scarred” he looked at me like I was ridiculous, lol.

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