Post # 242
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Helper bee
Hi guys! Things are slowly getting better. I think he is starting to accept it now. He told me he went to the car dealer to get his oil changed and was asking them about car seats and how to put one in his car. He also told me he hopes the baby is born on 4/25 since my birthday is on 3/25 and his is on 5/25. Wishful thinking, but according to one of the calculators my due date would be 4/10 so I’m not too keen about being 2 weeks late!
I’m trying to take it a day at a time. It’s going in the right direction so far so I’m glad. =) Thanks for all the support.
Post # 243
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Bumble bee
@hspw714: This is great news!! Hopefully he continues to look forward in the same direction!!
Post # 244
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Sugar bee
@hspw714: Even though some of the things he initially said were REALLY crappy and red-flag -ish, I hope that this is a sign that he’s coming to grips with the reality of this not being the end of his life.
I hope things continue to improve, but please make sure he doesn’t show any more signs of this crappy behaviour in the future.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 245
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Buzzing bee
@hspw714: I’m glad things are looking better! I just wanted to say congrats and I hope the next 9 months go as smoothly as possible for you! 🙂
Post # 246
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Busy bee
I’m sorry I missed the start of this, but your update is great news. Looks like the initial shock is starting to fade. Congrats! This is the best thing that could have happened! Now go and enjoy your pregnancy with your husband!
Post # 247
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Sugar bee
Really pleased with your update! Hope it continues to go well.
Post # 248
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Bumble bee
I could accept the medical reasons, not being right time, etc… but the reasons of you possibly not getting your body back, or loving the baby more than him… those are big red flags. Plus, you’ve said you’re financially stable, so it’s not like you two wouldn’t have the means to take care of this baby. It’s also odd to me that trying in November, which is only 3 months away would be the ‘right time’, but that now isn’t the right time… Maybe he is just nervous about being a dad, which is totally understandable, but I’m not really understanding some of his reasons for abortion… I hope it all works out for the best.
Post # 249
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Helper bee
@hspw714: I am so happy to hear he is dealing with it better. I didnt comment before but had to search for this post because I was worried.
CONGRATS MOMMY!!!!
Post # 250
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Helper bee
Sounds like he’s been in a panic which is pretty common and despite other posters being angry with him, at least he has been honest with you since youve fallen pregnant. I havet read all the posts (loooong one this one!)
But, if he continues to really panic, try addressing one concern at a time with him and just talk talk talk.
If thats not helping, councelling if he’s willing. Both of you will have fears as you go along and thats so normal.
At the end of the day though CONGRATS!!!!! How very beautiful xo
Post # 251
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Bumble bee
@hspw714: Great news! Sounds like he is changing his mind about the baby! Glad to hear it. Keep us updated
Post # 252
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@hspw714:
Wow, by the time I got to the #7 reason on his list, I knew he was going to say he doesn’t want kids at all. I’m so sorry, but there’s just no good solution here. If you want kids and he doesn’t, this is going to be the end your marriage. Since you’re already pregnant, it’s only going to expedite your parting. Please think long and hard before you get an abortion.
My mother had an abortion. My father wasn’t ready, they were unmarried and very young. I later found out that the only reason my father married my mother was because he felt obligated since he pushed her into having an abortion. They had two kids (myself included) and stayed together for about 20 years before the marriage finally dissolved. It was a really horrible divorce, and it was awful on me and my brother. But my mom has to live with the fact that she killed her first baby. My dad has been remorseful as well.
Don’t let your husband pressure you into a decision like that. If you want your baby, keep your baby and let your husband live with the fact that he walked out on his child. I really feel for you. It sounds like your husband led you on, saying he wanted a child and then revealing his true feelings later. I’m so sorry. I will pray for you.