(Closed) Husband forgot to turn and watch me walk down the aisle? :(

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ah it happens. My husband tuned out during the vows and there was an awkward pause when he was supposed to repeat after the priest. Then he was like OH and we laughed. it’s just one of those things, you can only look back and laugh.

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

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catlady01:  Oh good heavens. Expectations strike again. It is not a healthy thing that you are thinking about this, let alone brooding about it. Try to think of it as cute and funny that he was standing right there and missed it, and then move on. You are married. Be happy. Not much in life happens as you think it will — consider this practice for a long marriage of being happy together even when things do not go as planned. 

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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Post # 34
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Blushing bee

Sorry hunny you feel this way. But he was nervous and admitted it was an honest mistake. At least he turned up. Some people get left at the altar. Be happy for the things that went right, not sad because of one thing that went wrong 🙂

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

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catlady01:  Oh bless you! I actually understand your frustration. However, it’s actually quite a cute and funny story though! He was so focused and probably had so many wonderful things going through his head that he missed his cue. That’s all! I bet he got a lovely surprise when he realised you were there. That’s a special moment you shouldn’t want to change. As someone else said, Prince William didn’t watch Kate as she walked down the aisle. Harry did instead! And it was so sweet. You can renew your vows in future if you want to do it differently, but actually your wedding day sounds like it was perfect. Congratulations.

Post # 36
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

In the UK, I think traditionally doing that is good luck.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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annelise210516:  and the OP:

God, don’t we put huge expectations on the day?! I wish my husband had said I looked beautiful or that he loved me on our wedding day and he didn’t….I don’t think. It bothered me a bit. Ok, a lot..! But I know he loves me and I know he wouldn’t marry me if he thought I was ugly. He made a lovely speech for me and everyone else said I looked beautiful, so I have just decided to get over it.  I can understand both of you feeling how you did but don’t dwell on it.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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musicluvr325:  Lmao, this was my thought too I’m ashamed to say. Though I was just reading an article about ten pregnant women testing positive for Zika in Texas before clicking on this. Heart goes out to them.

 

OP, I agree with the others. It’ll be a funny story for you to tell. It has no meaning on the day or his feelings for you as his bride. Focus on the future not the past.

 

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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leonatigra:  you have such a lovely comforting way about you, towards my comment here and my other “pro photo” thread. I hope OP agrees it does help to have your feelings validated. 

I would also have been bothered by it if my husband hadn’t said I Love You and told me I’m beautiful on the wedding day. It actually reminds me of what actually went down on the day, there almost seemed to be a choreographed Plan to get this across to me haha one of my husbands Best Men (he had several) came to check on me in the bridal suite before the church and this was while my hair was midway done (back combed birds nest at that stage) and no makeup and he just kept sincerely stating how beautiful I looked. It was totally as if hubby had told him “tell her she’s beautiful, repeat many times!!” Haha I didn’t think much of it and when my father walked me up to my husband in church the first thing DH did was lean ever so slightly to me and tell me “You look beautiful” and I just smiled and gave what apparently was an imperceptible nod making him think I missed his compliment so when we reached the priest (we walked the last bit of the church aisle together side by side as equals – a Swedish Church thing) he repeated AGAIN “You look beautiful” and because it wasn’t in my script to have additional words (oh boy I slaved over the church programme) I just said a super fast thank you like “stop talking this is not what happens now”. 🙃 I bet if he hadn’t said anything I would’ve lamented over it no end! 

And of course your husband loves you and thinks you’re beautiful! 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front

That can’t be changed so why do you need to find a way to “cope” is it really THAT important in the grand scheme of things? 

Your married that’s what to focus on….. just enjoy!!! :+)

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