Post # 1
So I wanted to know your thoughts on this. My husband gave me a gift card so I could use it to get a pedicure in a salon, I´m super happy about it, by the way!
I´ve been planning to use it for over two months now. Thing is I am a work at home mom, so I take care of our baby and I also get the help of a nanny.
I only need 2 hours to use the gift card but he doesn´t want us to leave the baby with the nanny during that time. Although I can watch her on the Camera, on my phone.
So what do you think?
Post # 2
If you already have a nanny why are you even asking your husband permission to go out?
Post # 3
amberlane124 : Tell your husband to watch her so you can take a break and enjoy some time to yourself and use the gift certificate he got you.
Surely he’s not working 24 hours a day.
Post # 4
zzar45 : Yeah, that´s what I asked him hehe…he doesn´t like me to leave the baby with the nanny. I am with the nanny and the baby all the time.
I really trust the nanny, she´s been working with us for over a year now and she is very trustworthy.
Post # 5
amberlane124 : Yeah, that´s what I asked him hehe
I don’t understand, for you to have asked him that you must have actually asked for permission in the first place. There is no point paying a nanny if you can’t trust them with your kid, tell your husband you are going out on Friday afternoon to get your nails done and if he has a problem with the nanny watching the baby he can come home early from work.
Why are you even letting him dictate things like this to you? Is he usually the one to make your personal decisions?
he doesn´t like me to leave the baby with the nanny.
If he has a problem with the nanny that is another issue, but it sounds like he expects you to be chained to the baby 24/7.
Post # 6
amberlane124 : if he doesn’t feel comfortable enough to leave the baby with the nanny for a couple of hours after a year of service then he needs to find a nanny he’s comfortable with. And in the meantime I’d just hand him the kid one day he’s home and walk out the door.
Post # 7
amberlane124 : ……why have a nanny if you can’t leave the house.
Post # 8
If he doesn’t feel comfortable leaving the child with a nanny, then he needs to figure out how he can watch the kid a few times a week. It’s unfair to insist that you’re the one who needs to remain to supervise the nanny; too much to ask of any one person. I’d also investigate that use of the word “let”. It feels a bit uncomfortable that your husband can let you do things or not let you do them as the case may be. You two are a team of equals.
Post # 9
Your husband sounds like a real treat. No one would be “letting” me leave the house to get a pedicure. You have childcare. Is there a reason you have a nanny if you can never leave?
Post # 10
Why can’t your husband stay with the baby? Does the salon not have hours outside of working hours?
Post # 11
Isn’t the point of a nanny to watch your kid.
Post # 12
amberlane124 : either you leave the kid with the nanny or your husband watches the kid himself. It’s your and his baby, why is he acting that you have sole responsibility of the baby, and he gets to dictate how you tend to the kid? Wtf?
Post # 13
Why the f*ck do you have a nanny if you are home all day with the baby.. is this a joke
Post # 14
Your husband literally only wants YOU to ever watch the baby? How is that realistic? Tell him to get over it and leave the baby with the nanny, or else he can stay home and watch the baby his damn self.
Post # 15
She said she’s a work at home mum so I’m assuming the nanny watches the the kid while OP is doing her work ?🤷🏽♀️supertrooper0101 :
OP, what was the point of that gift card if you can’t leave the house to use it