Husband gifted me a certificate but will not let me use it

posted 4 months ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

If you already have a nanny why are you even asking your husband permission to go out? 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

amberlane124 :  Tell your husband to watch her so you can take a break and enjoy some time to yourself and use the gift certificate he got you. 

Surely he’s not working 24 hours a day.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

amberlane124 :   Yeah, that´s what I asked him hehe

I don’t understand, for you to have asked him that you must have actually asked for permission in the first place.  There is no point paying a nanny if you can’t trust them with your kid, tell your husband you are going out on Friday afternoon to get your nails done and if he has a problem with the nanny watching the baby he can come home early from work.

Why are you even letting him dictate things like this to you?  Is he usually the one to make your personal decisions?  

he doesn´t like me to leave the baby with the nanny.

If he has a problem with the nanny that is another issue, but it sounds like he expects you to be chained to the baby 24/7.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

amberlane124 :  if he doesn’t feel comfortable enough to leave the baby with the nanny for a couple of hours after a year of service then he needs to find a nanny he’s comfortable with. And in the meantime I’d just hand him the kid one day he’s home and walk out the door. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

If he doesn’t feel comfortable leaving the child with a nanny, then he needs to figure out how he can watch the kid a few times a week. It’s unfair to insist that you’re the one who needs to remain to supervise the nanny; too much to ask of any one person. I’d also investigate that use of the word “let”. It feels a bit uncomfortable that your husband can let you do things or not let you do them as the case may be. You two are a team of equals.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

Your husband sounds like a real treat. No one would be “letting” me leave the house to get a pedicure. You have childcare. Is there a reason you have a nanny if you can never leave?  

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

Why can’t your husband stay with the baby? Does the salon not have hours outside of working hours?

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Isn’t the point of a nanny to watch your kid.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

amberlane124 :  either you leave the kid with the nanny or your husband watches the kid himself.  It’s your and his baby, why is he acting that you have sole responsibility of the baby, and he gets to dictate how you tend to the kid?  Wtf?  

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

Why the f*ck do you have a nanny if you are home all day with the baby.. is this a joke

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Your husband literally only wants YOU to ever watch the baby? How is that realistic? Tell him to get over it and leave the baby with the nanny, or else he can stay home and watch the baby his damn self.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She said she’s a work at home mum so I’m assuming the nanny watches the the kid while OP is doing her work ?🤷🏽‍♀️supertrooper0101 :  

OP, what was the point of that gift card if you can’t leave the house to use it 

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