(Closed) Husband has asked me to watch porn with him….help!

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think it’s only natural to feel a bit awkward about this, especially if you haven’t spent a lot of time hanging out in the back aisles of video stores.

My advice, if you really want to try this, would be to skip the video you got for free and do some individual research into the wide (really) variety of porn available until you find something that piques your interest.

There’s plenty of woman friendly stuff featuring actual women with real partners (and normal bodies), good lighting and non-kinky sex.  It doesn’t all have to be about busty blondes in enormous lucite hells.  Then again, that might really do something for you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

First things first, good for you for having an open and loving sexual relationship with your husband! That’s awesome.

Fiance and I have tried it, and honestly it was just fine. Just listen to yourself and what you want. You may find it thrilling, or awkward, or fun, or hilarious. Just be open to the experience (which it sounds like you are). Also, don’t worry if it doesn’t do it for you. To be honest, Fiance and I discovered that we prefer to watch it separately, and we’re cool with that. You may find that it’s a part of your sexual life that you enjoy.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’ve always wondered this too. Like would it be akward or uncomfortable. FI and I thave talked about it before but I just dont really see the point in it? I dunno. It may be fun? Maybe I’m overthinking it too!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Personally, I really enjoy watching it. I’ve only watched it with my husband, and like you, never watched it before, and I find it a HUGE turn on.

Don’t feel nervous, its not for everyone, you may like it you may not. I’m sure he will be understanding. But, you may be like me, and be plesantly surprised that you actually enjoy it! 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It seems like if he’s not pressuring you then you could just tell him how you feel. That you’re curious but you don’t know if you can handle it.

Just tell him you want control of the remote so you can shut it off if it’s too much for you.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I enjoy watching it with my Fiance.  But for me, it also depends on what I’m watching.  Some ‘genres’ turn me on while other don’t do anything for me.  You just need to find what you’re comfortable with watching. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I would be much more comfortable watching porn with him than going to a sex shop and buying a toy for myself, lol.  It’s great that you’re willing to experiment and at least try things instead of saying “No way, Jose.”  Since you’ve never watched it before, I’m betting your first reaction is going to be laughter at the ridiculous plot lines!  Have fun together!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

Youd be surprised what it can lead to. lol. Try it once. If you dont like it, then at least you know you dont. You dont know until you try.

We like the comedy/movie spoof porn, they’re generally hilarious and we end up forwarding through the sex to watch the “plot”.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@neva- if its something you want to try for him, just surprise him with it. Obviously its something you want, and like you said if your more conservative it may turn him on like crazy to have you put in a sexy movie.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you have to figure out what you want out of it. Is this something you’re curious/interested enough in to try? Do you think it might lead to some fun times between the two of you?

Once you can put a firm answer down to why you might want to try it, approach him and let him know your reasoning. Heck, you can even tell him that you want to face your nerves head on! 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hm, it sounds like he really wants you to enjoy it first off. Maybe have a little explore on your own and see if there’s anything that you like on your own and then you can introduce it later. I definitely wouldn’t push it now because you both won’t enjoy it and then you’ll both feel rotten later. 

Or maybe go a different route with it – how are you about reading erotic novels? Find something you’re comfortable with and then you can read out bits to him that you’re comfortable with. 

I don’t know if you get them in the US but over here there’s lots of women only erotic stores (and I really mean women only. Men are only allowed in if they go with a woman, be it friend, girlfriend, wife, lover, whatever). When I first started thinking about porn and different things sexually that I wasn’t comfortable with I found these stores a life saver in just being able to browse and not be judged.

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