Post # 1
Hi bees just curious to know your thoughts.
We travel often for leisure.
My husband earns more than I do so can afford to fly business class, but paying for me to fly business class too would be a strain on him. He’s tall so struggles to be comfortable in economy seats but I don’t find it particularly comfortable either.
I work too (shorter hours and lower pay) but paying for long haul business class trips would really eat into my savings.
If you were in the same situation would you be okay with your hubby flying up front while you sit in economy? Or would you ask them to sit with you in economy even if they find it difficult due to body size? I’m not sure if it’s an unreasonable request.
Post # 2
- Wedding: January 2021 - City, State
Hahaha no!! Not a chance in hell would I be okay with that, isn’t there a middle ground of extra leg room you could take.
id be pissed as hell if this happened to me
Post # 3
bougainvillea : my husband is tall and broad shouldered. I would be really pissed if he sat in business class without me. Really pissed.
On short haul flights, he just sucks it up. Flying is comfortable for nobody on short haul. Long haul we will probably pay extra to pick seats with extra legroom. We sometimes also select seats where he sits in front of me, so he can put the seat back. This works for us because if I need him to put it up, I’m not too polite with him to tell him I need space and he’s not too polite with me to not put it back.
Post # 4
whoswho : He’s never flown in normal economy on long-haul flights before, always premium with extra leg room so I would never ask that of him anyway. He finds it super uncomfortable despite the extra space and can never sleep unless it’s a lie-flat bed.
Post # 5
bougainvillea : Wow. I think I’d take issue with that. Not sure how to resolve it tho. Either we both fly first/business class, or we both fly coach. If there are premium seats with extra leg room for both of us, that’d probably be ideal compromise. I chose other.
Post # 7
Surely there’s an economy plus type of seat? Alternative can he pay for your upgrade from economy? What about the front row economy (so extra leg room)?
Post # 8
Other. We share finances. I would not have married someone with a “what’s mine is mine what’s yours is yours” attitude in the first place.
Post # 9
For what it’s worth, he works extremely hard. Often with only 2 or 3 days off a month so when he goes on holiday he wants to really relax and not spend 14+ hours cramped in an uncomfortable seat. I know I have it easier with shorter hours and more days off, but we are a team so I didn’t think it unfair to ask him to pay for me to be upgraded. But at the back of my mind I wonder if I’m being unfeminist. And I know it creates added stress for him to pick up more shifts to pay for me, probably just as stressful as sitting in economy!
Post # 10
- Wedding: January 2021 - City, State
Working less hours doesn’t mean not working as hard for you, there must be a compromise here between both business class and both economy
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Other. There’s no “his money” and “my money” in our relationship – it’s our money.
Post # 12
bougainvillea : We are a married couple with separate finances. However neither of us would be comfortable with what you have presented. I mean if one of us got a free upgrade then we wouldn’t stand in the others way but I would never let my husband sit in economy whilst I sat in business class.
What about buying three economy front row seats so he can stretch out. That would still be cheaper than business for most long haul flights.
Post # 13
bougainvillea : How long are your flights? I guess I am having a hard time grasping the fact that you rather have your husband suffer in a smaller seat, due to the fact you can’t afford the extra money. Especially if finances are kept separate. Are you able to pick up longer hours in order to pay the difference?
ps…. is this the only thing he splurges on himself?
Post # 14
I totally agree that there is no “my” nor “his” money, it’s ours, but hard to not acknowledge that I contribute only a tiny portion of that. The disparity in our income is huge though so he has to pay for the majority of our necessities.
Apart from settling for premium economy, is there anything anyone who ticked “other” would suggest? I’m probably going to ask him to work a few more shifts so we can both fly together as I’m not in a position where I could do the same. I’m just mindful of him getting burnt out at work and feel guilty that I can’t pay for it myself.
Post # 15
.I’m probably going to ask him to work a few more shifts
I’m not sure if this is the fairest way to go about it. You said he already works extremely long hours, and already works 6/7 days a week and already pays for most of your necessities. When is he expected to squeeze in these extra shifts. Why cant you work more hours or get a higher paying job if you want that kind of lifestyle.?
If you insist on flying business class with him but neither of you can afford that then perhaps you may have to consider that you cant afford to go to that particular destination on vacation.