Post # 1
Hello again!! 🙂
As you can read from my previous posts, i had left my husbands joint family home and moved back in with my parents because i could not take the stress his mother was giving me, as im pregnant.
Today my husband called me and was crying and begging me to come back home. I felt really bad for him, i miss him a lot, he is still asking me to live with his mother till may/june of next year till our new house is ready.
Should i give his mother another chance? I havent spoken to her yet but he says she wants to talk to me whenever im ready.
Post # 2
Grow up? Sorry to be frank but that’s my initial thought.
You seem to be enjoying your husband crying? This would break my heart to see my husband in tears and I would do anything to stop him. From the outside it seems that the reason he wants to live with the in laws is he needs to get the home ready, for you and him. To be honest (and I don’t know the full story) you should be grateful you have somewhere to bunk. I’ve recently had a spell of the in laws living with me and to be honest I hated it but could understand the whys
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Having read your earlier thread, can you move back but with conditions in place? As in, he will have to back you up to the hilt if his mother starts in on you.
Post # 4
Talk to her, but I don’t think it’s a healthy living situation for you to live with her. Once bitten, twice shy. People rarely change.
Post # 5
Is having your husband stay with you at your parents an option?
Post # 6
toughlife2015: i remember your thread. No don’t move back. get him to move in with you and your parents if anything. don’t risk your health with stress.
Post # 7
October11th2014uk: you obviously didn’t read the other thread.
Post # 8
There’s a good reason people don’t live with in laws as a rule. You want that relationship to be healthy and respectful, especially once the baby arrives! You really should look into renting temporarily until your house is built. It would be best for all of you that way. once that happens it’s important to heal the relationship with your Mother-In-Law so that ahen the baby comes you can have the past in the past, and move forward happily.
even more importantly though, you need to be with your husband. And work together as a team. If he ABSOLITELY WILL NOT BUDGE on some sort of compromise renting something, I’d move back in. I’d rather deal with my Mother-In-Law by having guidelines set in place (and discussed before you move back in) than be separated from my husband while pregnant. There’s no way you’d be an effective parenting team if that happened.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Based on your previous posts I don’t think I’d move back in. He said she wanted to talk. Does she actually want to change the dynamic of what goes on in the home or is he just telling you she wants to talk so you’ll move back in?
I’d make sure you had that talk with her and lay down concrete expectations before considering moving back. Right now it seems you have a healthy, supportive, stress free environment at your parents place and I would not be so quick to step back into the fire that is MILs place.
Post # 10
can you two afford to rent an apartment for a year? Does your husband realziet hat stress isnt good for the baby?
Post # 11
also, why cant your husband move in with YOUR parents.
Post # 12
If he was so desperate he’d rent an apartment! A studio! A room! Something, anything, not with mom and dad.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2017 - Not sure
I had to read your other post to give better advice. If possible, I’d have him move in with you and your parents. If that’s not possible, then stay with your parents. Don’t go back there. If she’s creating more fights between you and your husband, it’s nothing but a toxic environment there for you. It would be much better for all of you to stay put until he can get you into another place. Besides, at this point your relationship with the Mother-In-Law can still be healed. If you go back there, she’ll continue to disregard your health and sanity and continue to disrespect you and will only cause further harm. You husband truly loves you, absolutely. But it’s his mother. It’s hard for him to take sides. And it wouldn’t be fair to demand that from him. Don’t walk away from a good marriage because of some sociopath witch. Figure out a way. My best advice. I’m sorry bee. This is an awful predicament for a pregnant woman 😪
Post # 14
Oh no definitely don’t go back there. I read your other thread. Nothing good will come of you going back there. [content moderated for name calling] Hang in there bee. But stay firm. I wish you luck.
Post # 15
ana2017: no ana unfortunately its not as i live in a different state.